Most every couple that gets married discovers there is good news and there is bad news about getting married. The good news is after the wedding there is the honeymoon. The bad news is after the honeymoon there is the marriage. If your marriage is anything like mine, then you cannot only remember the first fight you ever had with your spouse, but you probably remember it happened a lot quicker than you thought it would. It was like cold water being thrown in your face, because you realize that hardly anybody gets married and lives completely, totally, continuously, happily ever after.

The vast majority of marriages have at least some conflict. Only 16% of couples who are married report little conflict. 22% of married couples say they have a lot of conflict. 60% say they have a moderate am…