You must continue to adjust to each other, adjustments will never stop because each of you will continue to grow and change. Both of you will always be different. You think of anniversaries as a time for roses and dinner; she prefers Mexican food and a movie. For Halloween she thinks apples are a good treat; you say, since when did Halloween have anything to do with nutrition? Don't mistake it for a solid marriage. There is no such thing. Marriage is more like an airplane than a rock. You have to commit the thing to flight, and then it creaks and groans, and keeping it airborne depends entirely on attitude. Working at it, though, you can fly forever. Only you know how hard it has been, or how worthwhile.