Every pastor has had this experience. It doesn't have to be the husband in a marriage, but let's just say that it's the husband. The man comes to the pastor's study clutching the report from the physician's office: high blood pressure, overweight, danger of heart disease. The physician has ordered the man to lose weight and to stop smoking. Sitting in the pastor's office, the man swears he is going to take better care of himself. He's said it before, but this time he really means it. He wants to be around for his wife and to watch his kids grow up. The pastor prays with him and wishes him luck. A few days, weeks, or months later, the wife comes in. She is beside herself, angry and hurt. Despite her best efforts, she can't get her husband to stop smoking, to exercise, or to cut back on the …