In our 21^st-century world, we talk a lot about what we deserve. We measure our worth in fact often by what we believe we should receive in exchange for what we have accomplished or the quality of who we are. This of course is a dangerous game. For whenever we use “deserving” as our measurement tool, in fact whenever we use any kind of measurement tool to decide our worth, or the worth of someone else, we have gone down a narrow rabbit hole that will entrap us in the end.

Deciding what we deserve, what we have earned, what we feel is rightfully ours, given our good behavior, just allotment, or rightful acquisition creates a kind of entitlement attitude on our part in which we allow ourselves to expect certain outcomes as a matter of fact, given our level of engagement with something or someo…