Today people in our society are less and less willing to completely leave things to the "experts." Patients insist that their doctors talk to them about the options for treatment and include the patient as a full partner in making the final decision. The computer software stores are full of programs that allow people to draft simple legal documents like wills and to keep financial records and fill out tax forms like an accountant. People are saying to doctors, "It's my body." They are saying to lawyers and accountants, "It's my business and my future." They are saying to auto mechanics, "It's my car." Couples who want to get married say to me, "It's our wedding." Very few people say, "It's my funeral." Why am I talking about all of this today? So that I can give you a piece of advice and p…