Hans Sach wrote a book titled Masks of Love and Life. In this novel there are two brothers. The younger one is afraid at night as they go to bed and always wants the bedroom door closed. The older brother doesn't care and is always upset when the younger one whimpers after going to bed that he wants the door closed. One night the older brother bolts out of the bed with rage. "Someday I'm going to lock you in a room with open doors," he says. And in that moment he describes our dilemma: we all quest after more options and don't know what to do when we get them. We are locked in by too many choices.

We get lost with too many open doors; too many options given. We get lost with bad directions. Robert Fulghum spoke once of playing hide-and-seek. He says that some people get confused. The idea is to hide and get found, not to hide and never be found. He reflects:

As I write this, there is a kid under a pile of leaves in the yard just under my window. He has been there for a long time and everybody else is found and they are about to give up on him at the base. I consider finking on him or setting the leaves on fire to drive him out, but that's a bit radical. So I yelled, "Get found, kid" out the window and scared him so bad he started crying. It's hard to know how to be helpful sometimes.