This is a hard text for me because I am a typical first child in many respects. You other first children may recognize yourselves in some of what I’m about to say. As a first child I want everything to be black and white, and so, when things go wrong, I become a problem solver who wants to make it all right again. But that doesn’t always work out, as I discovered the year I was eight. Just before Christmas that year I decided I needed to “fix” the family Christmas tree decorations and, in the process of straightening the star on the top of the tree, pulled the whole thing over on top of me! My desire to immediately want to make things right doesn’t go over too well in our relationship to our grown-up daughters, either. My wife Debbie and I can’t fix things for them anymore; we can’t kiss …