Sometimes you discover a word of truth in the strangest places. In the book A SOUTHERN BELLE PRIMER, Marilyn Schwartz writes about the traditions, mysteries, and preparation that go into becoming a true Southern belle. One quality that every Southern belle must possess, according to Ms. Schwartz, is SPARKLE--that mixture of poise and vivaciousness that draws everyone's eyes and ears to her. One belle from Alabama commented that she learned to sparkle in dance class. At the tender age of six, she was chosen to be a dancing snowflake in her dance studio's production. Her teacher insisted that all the snowflakes must throw their shoulders back and project confidence. As this woman recalled, “If you drooped, all you could hope for is to be a puddle." She had never forgotten that lesson, and st…