... little about Christ; but I heard him say on a program one day that “Love is my decision to make your problem my problem.” Now, that’s the kind of love that I am talking about, and what I believe Jesus was talking about. The famous psychiatrist Harry Stack Sullivan once defined love as “the condition that exists when you are as interested in fulfilling the needs of the other as you are in having your own needs fulfilled.” Now, that is love! In that Upper Room so long ago, Jesus did not say to His ...
... look like? How do we know it when we see it? How do we know it when we experience it? How do we know it when we do it? Let me suggest that the psychologist Harry Stack Sullivan’s definition of the state of love provides a nice opening wedge into these questions. To paraphrase ever so slightly, Stack says that whenever you are as concerned about the safety, the satisfaction, or the happiness of another person as you are about your own safety, satisfaction, and happiness, there the state of love exists ...
... movement. But other people can feel caught and bound, and they can also change and grow. They can do cruel things and they can act lovingly - just like me. And so I can identify with them, although we may seem to have little or nothing in common. Harry Stack Sullivan has said, we’re "more alike than otherwise." I believe that, and I find it to be an extremely hopeful statement. If it is so then it really is possible for me to begin to understand another person and be genuinely involved with him or her as ...
HENRY CLOSE’S (see biographical note preceding A New Perspective) sermon On Loneliness grew out of discussions with people in alcoholic rehabilitation programs. In it he deals with the subject of loneliness, an emotion the well-known American psychiatrist Harry Stack Sullivan used to say was the only motivating force in people stronger than anxiety that could move them toward facing the possibility of pain and growth. People have used many different symbols or figures of speech to express their sometimes ...
... . Yet, those people get bored with their toys and houses and parties, and we all wonder if today’s schoolteachers, preachers, engineers, managers, accountants, and lawyers are really more productive than their counterparts of 1900 who had even less. Psychologist Harry Stack Sullivan maintains that “love begins when a person feels another person’s need to be as important as his own.” Frankly, life itself begins when a person feels another person’s need is as important as his own. From the beginning ...
... our own highest good. Christian love is not like. Christian love is more akin to “benevolence,” which comes from the Latin “bene volens,” meaning good will: willing the good for the other, whether or not you happen to like him or her. Psychiatrist Harry Stack Sullivan once said that “Love is that condition that exists when you are as interested in fulfilling the needs of another as you are in having your own fulfilled.” That’s what Jesus was talking about. But it isn’t easy. I would argue ...
... the dark, feeding my faith until someday the lights come on again." That's determination, and that's essential for discipleship. III But it takes more than determination to be disciples. Our determination must be fed by discipline. Harry Stack Sullivan, in talking about the security operations of people, gives us a signal for discipline. He uses the designation,"selectively inattentive." He says this is the way people protect themselves from anything that threatens their sense of security. They simply ...