... a good thing. 3. The homes of the high self-esteem boys were characterized by democracy and openness. They had freedom within the set boundaries for individual growth and expression without the fear of ridicule. There was an atmosphere marked by acceptance and emotional safety. In other words, they didn't play the put one another down game. (1) Naaman regained his self-esteem once he was healed but something else probably changed too. His heart. The pride and arrogance that marked him before were probably ...
... The “Dachshund Dilemma” is derived from an old poem about dachshunds dogs that are long of body and short of legs. The poem goes like this: There was a dachshund, Once so long He hadn’t any notion How long it took to notify His tail of his emotion; And so it happened, While his eyes Were filled with woe and sadness, His little tail went wagging on Because of previous gladness. This is a good description of the plight of many churches today. We are still wagging our tails, not because of what is going ...
... . If something goes wrong or awry, it’s not your fault. Find a scapegoat and blame others. 4. You have learned not to trust others. You can only trust yourself. 5. Deny all negative feelings, fears and doubts. Keep on task. Suppress weaker emotions. Don’t admit your feelings or fears 6. Find the one right answer to every problem, and insist everyone follow your right answer. 7. Hold a grudge. Disputes are never resolved and healed; disagreements and fights can continue indefinitely. Control freaks count ...
... s “face” is the combination of honor, reputation, responsibility, prestige, and worthiness that one must maintain within all social interactions. To “lose face” is to behave in such a way that every aspect of one’s being—-social, emotional, intellectual, spiritual—-is diminished, disfigured, disgraced. Just as the Inuit peoples have dozens of words for “snow,” the environment that defines their lives, this concept of “face” is so critical to Japanese and Chinese cultures, for example ...
2130. Our Own Wilderness Experience
Luke 4:1-13
Illustration
Leah Grace Goodwin
... is potentially sinful? Spirit-filled, sanctified, spiritually vibrant Christians are still subject to temptation. Jesus was hungry. There was nothing wrong with craving bread after a forty-day fast. All of us have certain desires, wants, needs, both physical and emotional. We crave food when we are hungry. We need companionship, acceptance, approval of others, love and appreciation. These are legitimate needs. And even our wants are not necessarily sinful. How then do they become sinful? The devil is often ...
2131. Amazing Grace
Luke 15:1-32
Illustration
Richard J. Fairchild
... God and to all God-fearing people. And like the young prodigal, he repented and sought, in humility and submissiveness, to serve God for the rest of his days. His resulting experience of God's forgiveness, of God's grace, is not only described well in the emotion packed words of the song he wrote, it is also to be found in his epitaph, an epitaph he himself wrote shortly before his death in 1807. He describes himself and his experience of God this way: "John Newton, clerk, once an infidel and libertine, was ...
2132. God Does Not Compare His Children
Luke 15:11-32
Illustration
Brett Blair
... that we must measure up. It is then that we are just like the elder brother and joy flies right past us because we are bent on comparing. God does not compare his children and rank them. And though intellectually I can get this in my mind, on a pure emotional level I find it almost impossible to accept.
... body. Or as an earlier generation put “feel the burn,” “no pain, no gain.” The first day of a new workout regime is always great. Muscles might be tight. Instead of “flexing” you might be “jiggling.” But it feels good physically, emotionally, and mentally to know you are on the move. Endorphins, the body’s natural anti-depressants, flow freely during exercise. The first day of a work out is wonderful. The next morning reacquaints you with “the agony of defeat.” Endorphins are never ...
... needs we need to make our requests known. “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Bob and Judy Fisher in their book Life is a Gift discovered there is an urgency among hospice patients to forgive and be forgiven. The emotional burden of carrying a backpack full of unforgiven issues can get really heavy. It is a burden the soon departed are not usually willing to carry. Martha is an example. She is dying of lung cancer. She had good reason to be bitter, but she chose ...
... He really didn’t mean to hit her, and after all, it’s not that big a deal”– that is condoning. That is not forgiving. Russell was the victim of a hit and run accident. He forgave the driver as a way of healing his own emotional pain, but he still pressed charges and pursued legal action. Forgiveness is not condoning. Forgiving is not FORGETTING. Forgetting is a disease known as dementia or Alzheimer’s. It is tragic and painful. Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a ...
... me, you will obey what I command.” Verse 21: “Whoever has my command and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.” Verse 23: “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching.” Our love for God is demonstrated not by some soft, sentimental emotion, but by obedience to his will, expressed in loving cooperation with his commands. Our obedience is grounded in our love. The command to love is the essential demand of Christian existence. To love means to orient one’s whole being toward others. Love is an ...
... to thrust a knife into the heart of another. Betrayal is a wound to the soul. When married couples promise to love, honor, and cherish each other as long as they both shall live and then break that agreement in some selfish fling of emotion, souls are wounded. When a friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt, that is betrayal and souls are wounded. When a boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents, souls are wounded. When a colleague ...
... and other items of family history and memories. One of the family members objects and asks, "How will we know it's us without our past?" Family Albums are fun to look at. The remind us who we are. They capture moments of our history that evoke all kinds of emotions. When my Mom died, one of the things I was able to do was put together a video tribute of her life. My brothers and cousins and Uncle and I went through 3 boxes of photos and photo albums. We found pictures none of us had ever seen before. We ...
... what we might have done in life, God continues to love us, unconditionally. Romans 5:8 says, "But God proves God's love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us." A woman who was dying of AIDS asked a minister to visit her. Her emotional pain was as real as her physical pain. Everything seemed hopeless. "I'm lost," she said, "I've ruined my life and every life around me. I'm headed straight for the hot place. There's no hope for me." The minister saw a framed picture of a pretty girl ...
... I go to talk with Jesus. Normally, I go in and call for Jesus and he comes. We visit, and usually I give him my prayers of thanksgiving and intercessions." Late one summer Randy got the news that his cancer was back. He was in his own words, "an emotional wreck." At that time Randy prayed. In his mind he was again in the mountains waiting for Jesus to come to the door of the gazebo. "At that moment a completely unthought-of event happened that shook me to tears," Randy wrote. He saw himself as a five-year ...
... four fascinating stages. First they call you DaDa. Then they call you Daddy. As they mature they call you Dad. Finally they call you collect to borrow money. I saw a Father's Day Card that read: "Being a father can be expensive, time-consuming, frustrating, confusing and emotionally draining, actually it's a lot like golf." Today is Father's Day, a day we salute fathers. Now, I know every Father isn't a great Father. Mine wasn't. I understand that. But let me tell you, there are a whole lot of Dads out ...
... the early church. How could he finally come to the end of the way and put everything he had seen, heard, touched, and believed into three words. God is love. The dictionary defines love as an intense affection. Tina Turner says love is a second hand emotion. Good marketing urges us fall in love with cars, jewelry, and property. John says, “God is love.” Pure, unbounding, love. The love of God is greater far, than tongue or pen can ever tell. It goes beyond the highest star, and reaches the lowest hell ...
... take a closer look. I. We Face Change with the Help of the Holy Spirit Change is certain. Change is necessary. Most change is natural. A number of you are graduating from high school or college or some other school of learning. These are exciting and emotional days. These are days filled with laughter and tears. Change is in the air. Things will no longer be like they used to be. When our youngest left for college and the milk spoiled in the refrigerator, Sandy cried. When the first tuition bill arrived in ...
... church as an association of people who share a particular belief system. Paul’s association with the Church of Ephesus had been deep and meaningful. There he made friends, preached the gospel and worked for a living. There he belonged. No wonder the parting is emotional. The fellowship of kindred minds does that for you. Letting go is hard to do, but it is necessary. There comes a time to say, “Goodbye.” Paul’s parting words are these in Verse 32, “Now I commit you to God, who can build you ...
... wilderness and streams flow in the desert, people paid attention. The thought of a crocus blossoming in the desert was reason to rejoice. So it is that droughts come in all kinds of ways. There are physical droughts and spiritual droughts. There are mental and emotional droughts which sap the strength right out of you. But here is the good news. God comes to the desert with streams of mercy never ceasing. Yes, my dear friend, near despair in the lowland of strife, God is in the desert. He comes to quench ...
... , the pastor or priest uses our name as we're baptized, Joe or Mary or whoever, "I baptize you in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit." Our names are extremely important. Being named by a loved one can be a deeply emotional moment. We may even heard someone say or said ourselves: "I love the way you say my name." I personally love calling people by name when I serve Communion. There seems to be something far more Holy about saying, Luann or Jeff or Jeremy, this is the body of ...
... , grandparents stood by proud and crying too as these young people made that momentous decision in their lives. Other youth and children stood in awe and wonder, filled with curiosity because most of them had never witnessed a baptism by immersion. All of that wonderful emotion was short circuited when during the very first baptism the preacher was heard to say: "I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son and ... holy moly, I forgot to take off my watch!" Today we celebrate and remember the ...
... we feel in the middle of a crisis, in the middle of despair. And he also captured exactly what happens. We ask for a sign and we're so blinded by what's going on in our lives that we can't see the signs for the fog of our emotions. That's part of what Jesus was telling his disciples. He says the signs are there. The signs have always been there. We just have to look. We have to get ready and stay ready so we'll know them when we see them. So, where do we look? How ...
... in every collection. It features one of the most joyous, unforgettable moments in any parent’s life. It’s the moment when that first child, your tiny, newborn baby, is gently placed in your arms. As you look at your child, such tremendous emotions crowd your heart and mind — love, hope, joy, gratitude, peace, anticipation, wonder. But there is one more revelation that new Moms and Dads don’t usually expect. Looking at your child, you suddenly realize you will never, ever again have a completely ...
... , and true, particularly in what is often called a “post-modern world.” People today, particularly young people, are turned off by a faith that is simply intellectual or rationalistic. They want a holistic presentation of the Gospel, one that grips the imagination and the emotions as well as the intellectual part of the brain. It is an age that cries out for Spirit, Son and Father. A certain man was overheard to say, “I was making $100,000 a year, had 75 people under me, a condo in Aspen and ...