... him to have third-degree infections on his face, his shoulders, and his back. The infections were so painful that his skin could not be touched without causing it to bleed. The most painful aspect of his experience, though, was the damage that was done to his self-esteem. His face was disfigured and the kids at school teased him mercilessly. He got to the point that he simply did not want to be with other people. He started staying at home. He did not want to risk the cruel things others might say to him ...
... Jesus to hear what he had to say. Matthew was really like a man without a country because he had sold out to Rome, but they considered him good only to collect taxes, and the Jews hated him with a passion and had nothing but scorn for him. His self-esteem had hit rock bottom and he hated himself for what he had become. He knew he was a failure -- to himself, to his people -- and he ached for restoration. His valley of Achor seemed to have no door of hope until Jesus walked by and opened it wide. Matthew ...
... will be the rule of thumb. Grace will be more important than sin. It has been suggested that forgiveness gives us a new sense of worth, and with this sense of worth comes a desire to be worthy. A sense of worth, a sense of self-esteem, has tremendous regenerative power. When we feel good about ourselves, our actions tend to be positive, wholesome, and edifying to others. It is when we feel bad about ourselves that we engage in destructive, hurtful behavior. Billy was the youngest of three children born to ...
... rise up and call her happy; her husband too, and he praises her." What a difference that would make in the lives of our family if we would find something to praise them for at the start of every day. Most definitely we would improve the self-esteem of our children and spouse. The worthy wife sets the example and is praised. Her efforts positively affect the entire family. Perhaps the greatest reward any parent can hope for is when a child becomes an adult and embarks on the path that leads to abundant ...
... Jesus. Nor does the fact that God loves everybody mean that we want to see all of them in the crowd with Jesus, and with us. You see, every time Jesus says, "Follow me," it affects us. We don't mind Jesus trying to help the prostitute build some self-esteem, but that doesn't mean we want to be sitting next to her in church. We aren't bothered by Jesus spending time with the mentally ill, but that doesn't translate into our own willingness to be more tolerant of that horrible disease. We are glad to see ...
... object of our confidence and affection turns out to have feet of clay. It takes time to recover from intense disappointment, and often requires in-depth evaluation and re-assessment of self and the circumstances and the need for understanding and renewal of self-esteem. One of the most difficult feelings of disappointment is in the realm of theological factors. If our concept of the who, what, and why of God becomes involved, and we have an inadequate or misinformed idea of his nature and character, we can ...
... put prosperity above discipleship and consumption above commitment. He hears prayers by Christians who have bought the "name it and claim it" gospel which is always so popular: name the blessing you want and claim it in the name of Jesus. Their religion is self-esteem; their god is found in the shopping malls of mammon and not in the churches of Jesus Christ. This popular religion which God hears too much of today is perfectly embodied in a young man named Mike, who left his hometown and became a success ...
... disgrace which makes patriotic speeches about veterans ring hollow in my ears. Meanwhile, the president of a flag company reports that sales of American flags have gone through the roof, especially during the last several years. He is quoted as saying, "Our national self-esteem has improved, [and it's good for business because] people are buying better flags, more expensive flags." We've got it all wrong in this country. We hate the good and love what is evil. We hate the good soldier by treating him ...
... your light. Not to accept something is to repudiate, to reject, something as completely useless. Whatever you do, those of darkness will be unreceptive to your light. There are some people who are so insecure, so self-satisfied, so envious, so jealous, so low in their self-esteem that no matter what you do, they will never be receptive to you. You can cry crocodile tears. You can go the second, third, fourth, and fifth mile to please them. You can wine them and dine them. You placate them, elevate them, and ...
... somewhere between an African slave named Kunta Kinte straight out of Roots, and those thousands of migrant workers who, at harvest time, populate the farmlands and orchards of America. In my mind is a rather pathetic person, bent over, crushed in spirit, lacking in self esteem, soiled, wrinked and weary. And my first response is "Who, me, a servant? You gotta be kidding!" If that is the kind of mental picture you have of servanthood, then the prophet Isaiah has some good news for you. In our text for this ...
... in his love, and (2) to teach us everything that we need to know as we move into the future (in the words of John 16:12, to "lead us into all the truth.") The clear implication of this twofold role is that while our own positive self-esteem is already established through the knowledge that we are unconditionally loved and valued by God, that while we already have that peace which the world cannot give, that while we already are saved and justified, or, to put it more dramatically, that while we already are ...
... our heads up, to feel good about ourselves in Christ. When we demand of one another that the services we render or the favors we supply be noted on a balance sheet and, somehow, be paid in kind at some time in the future, that gift of self-love and self-esteem begins to come apart. Do we want to live in a world where a Great Uncle Max will bill us for his services? We ask for it if we receive God’s grace and merely pass on it - refusing to reflect and duplicate it in our lifestyle. B. We Can ...
... loving us the way God loves us helps us to discover that it’s fine for us to love ourselves as well. And, by the way, the church is a fine laboratory for helping that to happen. If you suspect there is someone in this congregation who needs self-esteem, and you have yours in place already, you can help God’s program take a giant step forward by assisting such people to love themselves - and helping to release and dispatch them into the world. God knows, it won’t help them if they suspect your care for ...
... the doctor returns and we look up for some news. It’s bad ... and we’re going to need to take time off from work, lose weight, give up smoking. Have you noticed, in yourself or a friend, how this kind of crisis can eat away at a person’s self-esteem? It is as if we only have value when we are capable of working. And if that worth is threatened by sickness, then we’re not sure who we are, or if we are worth anything. Job’s friends have just gained another companion. We are continually tempted to ...
... everyone of his status. He wasn’t her minister. Actually, he wasn’t anyone’s minister. But he thought he was everyone’s minister. He had retired a few years earlier and his voluntary rounds in the hospital provided him with a boost to his flagging self-esteem. He would visit every patient on the hall, asking them if they “would like to have a prayer.” Then, in a booming voice he would break the quiet peace of the morning hour with a recitation that would weave portions of 1 Corinthians 15 in and ...
191. A Powerful Prayer
Matt 22:15-22; John 17:20-26
Illustration
Brett Blair
... and called it self-preservation. We have rewarded laziness and called it welfare. We have killed our unborn and called it a choice. We have shot abortionists and called it justifiable. We have neglected to discipline our children and called it building self-esteem. We have abused power and called it political savvy. We have coveted our neighbor's possessions and called it ambition. We have polluted the airwaves with profanity and called it freedom of expression. We have ridiculed the time-honored values of ...
... next day he kissed me and said things were fine. That's not a pleasant theme for Father's Day in a respectable church like ours, is it? I need to tell you, however, that child abuse is not always physical. Constant put-downs and attacks on a child's self-esteem can be as devastating as bruises that show from a beating. The suggestion that a child is unwanted and is a nuisance to Mommy and Daddy is just as cruel as a lashing with a belt. Some of you know what I am talking about. You have heard such abuse ...
... who wore an invisible sign around his neck that said IALAC. The letters stood for "I Am Lovable and Capable." Pieces of the sign would be torn off when he had conflicts with his parents, peers, teachers, and even himself. Every time he lost a portion of his self-esteem, another part of the sign was ripped off. Maybe Judas had his IALAC sign torn to shreds through the years. He couldn't let anyone love him, even Jesus. It can happen to people. People can feel shut out in any group. I know we have to watch ...
... during his presidency. Probably President Truman was right when he pointed to that inaction as the source of Jefferson's headaches. (3) Guilt takes a toll on mind and body. It causes us to imagine problems that we may not even have. It shatters our sense of self esteem. Those in its grip live in the service of a cruel, sadistic master. There may be someone in this room this morning who knows about the agony which guilt can cause. How do we rid ourselves of this monster? That is the question for the day ...
... decide for myself whether to live or to die. That was the choice. No one else could pull me out of self-pity. If I couldn’t live with the truth that many people will never accept me as a person, If I have to depend on others for my self-esteem, then I must choose death. If I wanted to live, I had to quit my depression. I had to say my life had value, and I had to mean it. I chose life." John Ehrlichman’s voice had been soft until his last sentence: "I chose life." Anderson said he ...
... that? Maybe, maybe not. LET'S BEGIN BY ADMITTING THAT MOST PEOPLE AT SOME TIME IN THEIR LIVES HAVE DREAMS OF GREATNESS. Don't we? I hope we do. Particularly when we are young. It would be sad to think that any young person would grow up with so little self-esteem that he or she never dreamed of doing anything great in life. It's natural for us to want to lead the pack, to be the best, to be the drum major in life's parade. In the February 1995 issue of CAMPUS LIFE Wil B. Strange tells about a ...
... . Kandy's parents were reluctant to let her go, because they were afraid that she might choose to go back to her birth father. But they encouraged her to go so that she might learn more about her history. They knew it was important for her identity and self-esteem. Kandy and her father had a good time at lunch. He answered, to the best of his ability, the dozens of questions she had been storing up for so long. When Kandy's adoptive parents arrived at the end of the lunch, Kandy did something unexpected. In ...
... Motivision offered a similar device, a $250 box that plugged into the television and flashed phrases like "I feel secure with my developing self." (3) Salvation through subliminals. Gain without pain. We have substituted feeling good for being good. The best prescription for high self-esteem is to begin living out your values. Tell yourself that you are only going to do those things you know are right, and you will be amazed at how good you feel about yourself. But that is not where we are headed as a ...
... . That is the second thing that must be said. If someone has done you wrong, go to them, explain why you feel betrayed, give them a chance to explain their side, then move on. Confront the person who has wronged you and then move on. If fear or low self-esteem will not allow you to confront them, then you have another problem, but the worst thing you can do is to hold on to anger. There is little to be accomplished by nurturing feelings of anger and betrayal, and much can be lost. Don't hold on to anger ...
... up in a sheltered workshop where make-work is provided for them--even though most of these are run by well-meaning individuals. But the speaker felt that all people, even those with special challenges, need to work in the real world. Competitive work raises their self-esteem, and provides them with a network of friends as well as a larger income. What is true of people with Down Syndrome is true of those of us who have a normal set of chromosomes. We need to work for the sake of our own wellbeing. People ...