... for the hammer to drop, waiting for the next shoe to fall. We wait and worry, certain that something bad is going to happen. We deplete our energy needlessly anticipating what never comes. To wait for the rooster to crow is a waste of time, strength and emotion. But there's another side of the coin, suggested by Peter's denial of Jesus. It was the crowing of the rooster that became the haunting reminder of what he had done. I wonder if he ever heard a rooster crow without remembering what he had done ...
... good friends perhaps more by our indifference than by our hostility. We just have let them go. Others we have lost through differences that we have allowed to fester, and there are some people we just don't speak to anymore because the anger is so deep, and our emotions are so sore. (We've failed in friendship.) "Many of us have failed in marriage. Yes, part of the fault lies in the other person, but in our honest moments we know that part of the trouble is within us. We were not as loving as we should have ...
... the grave of her husband. The cemetery, however, had made a mistake - - a big mistake. They’d placed her husband’s headstone on the wrong grave and the man was actually buried on an adjacent plot. The suit claimed that the woman suffered severe emotional trauma and distress and that all her prayers had been wasted. Well, some folks have strange notions about prayer, and certainly that woman’s was a distorted theology. But I can understand her trauma. And the picture of persistence that she presents is ...
... in the neck.” How many of you — just this week — have had lumps in your throat because of your children? Some of those came out of sheer joy. Something happened that was so pleasing to you — maybe surprising, but deeply moving — So deeply moving that your emotions welled up and a lump in your throat kept you from speaking. The tears in your eyes were tears of joy and they glistened as you smiled with unbridled delight. For others, the lump in the throat was not a sweet delight, but bitter sorrow ...
... out of hock, we must take whatever responsibility belongs to us. The third suggestion for getting our life out of hock is an attitude and an action, a stance which will give us freedom a freedom from fear and compulsion, as well as other things that hold us in emotional hock. I put it this way: Cease living life as something you owe. I repeat, cease living life as something you owe. I like the story about the man who went down a serving table and got to the chicken. "Two pieces," he said to the lady who was ...
... : murder by indifference and neglect. Have you seen it? I have, and I have been guilty of it. Words and actions can wound us, but so can no words and no action. Indifference, disregard, neglect -- these are the painful bullets that penetrate our hearts and bring emotional death. These deaths are silent -- we don't usually see them happening though people are dying right before our eyes. We don't see them because we are not looking --we're not listening. The ears and eyes of our hearts are closed to those ...
... more and more convincing. The connection between mind and body. Our attitudes contribute to our sickness; our disease -- but also to our healing. But not only does laughter and cheerfulness provide medicine for the physical life, it is medicine for our minds, our emotions, our spirits, our relationships. It is medicine for the whole self. And I want us to pursue the theme from that perspective of wholeness -- all of who we are, and all that life, especially the Christian life, is about. We are talking about ...
... . The man is playing with an empty glass which has probably contained his fourth martini. There is no conversation or contact. The man breaks the stagnant silence by asking a profound question. "Do you believe in life after death?" With no movement or emotion, the woman responded, "What do you call this?" No communication, no conversation, no contact between living, breathing persons is "life after death." A student in large university put it, "I feel like a B-minus walking around on two legs." A lot of ...
... energize us to live life victoriously no matter what it brings. Perhaps you've heard of the old country woman who was reflecting on the dramatic expressions of people who had religious experiences at revival meetings. She and her daughter were talking about the emotional outbursts and expressions, the shouting, all the outward expressions of those initial Christian experiences. The woman made this profound comment: "It's not how high you jump, it's how you walk when you come back to earth." So it's not some ...
... the things you notice immediately about children is that they have a deep-seated need to be the center of attention. Toddlers love to "perform" for parents and grandparents. One of their favorite phrases is, "Mommy, Daddy, look at me! Look at me!" One mark of emotional maturity is the ability to not be the center of attention. To empathize with others. To both give and receive. It's a sign of Jesus' self-assurance and spiritual depth that he didn't like to draw attention to himself. Until the last week of ...
... , or whether it will end in divorce based on whether the couple engages in what he calls, "positive sentiment override." That’s a mouthful. What is positive sentiment override? Positive sentiment override, according to John Gottman, is "where positive emotion overrides irritability." For example, a husband snaps at his wife after a long day. How does she respond? If she is in positive sentiment override, she overlooks the irritability. Her overall positive feelings about him override the isolated negative ...
... mind but, "with God nothing shall be impossible!" Guard your hearts and minds: This is an interesting word study. The word for "guard" means to guard before hand or to stand outside the door and kept the intruders out. The peace of God stands before your emotional and intellectual worry habit. Here's the key. Mark it down well: The effectiveness of God's anxiety reduction program and the degree of spiritual peace you will discover is directly related to the degree you work the plan. There you have it. God's ...
... or widower who will not let go of the grief following the loss of their beloved husband or wife. Parents who cannot cope with a debilitating or deadly disease of one of their children, who take it out on each other rather than leaning on each other for emotional support. We can sympathize. We know that we cannot feel the pain that they feel since we have never gone through it ourselves. Still, there comes a time when we, for our own well-being and the well-being of those around us, must throw aside the ...
... , she walked over and hugged me. Then she said, `I’ve been there, too. Feel free to talk to me. I know what you’re going through.’ Ann, I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. Here was this total stranger, taking her time to give me emotional support and courage to face the future at a time when I was ready to give up. "Oh, I hope God gives me a chance to do for someone else what that wonderful woman and her husband did for me. Meanwhile, Ann, please let your readers know that even though ...
... better about their lives as a whole--they looked forward to making progress toward important goals. Gratitude also turned out to be measurable in the moral sphere. The grateful groups were more likely to help someone with a personal problem or to offer emotional support. (6) In other words, counting blessings is a wonderful antidote for stress. According to this study, the key to dealing with stress is to give God thanks daily. Don’t distress yourself over things in which you have no control. Rather give ...
We live in a world where the concept of fairness is nearly elevated to a level of worship. If you live or work with children on a regular basis then you will recognize that most squabbles erupt from this very old emotion of feeling somehow slighted or mistreated. He got a tablespoon more Moose Tracks ice cream than I did. No fair! Why does she get to stay up a half-hour later than I do? That's not fair! She got to sit in the front seat last time. It's ...
... and more of our interior lives until we are wholly and completely the Lord's. And when that happens it really will not rattle us if death occurs thirty years from now or tomorrow. Without disciplined spiritual habits, we face death with only our intellects and emotions. We'll get through it, but I can promise you it will be hellish. I recently read a story of a father whose daughter, as a teenager, was plagued by terrible bouts of acne. Her face became so ravaged that at times she could not bring herself ...
... of the last Emmaus weekends in which I participated. I was moved to tears of sadness and joy as a young woman, six months pregnant with her second child, through stifled sobs, shared her experience. She’d come to the Emmaus weekend an emotional wreck. Had I not known some of her same feelings, and had I not spent countless hours counseling people in the same ravaging, destructive dilemma, I would have found it extremely difficult to believe her confession. She was a beautiful person, alive in personality ...
... and it drains us of power. Standing along side the poor, making our congregations places of hospitality for recovery folks and marginalized, championing the cause of single parents and homeless persons – all of this is demanding, requiring not only time and money, but also emotional and spiritual energy. We do grow weary. We do suffer compassion fatigue. Well, how do we deal with it? How do we cope? How do we continue in ministry, being Christian, when being Christian has worn us down? How do we live with ...
... radical about my involvement, but many folks in the church could not understand my commitment and participation. I couldn’t understand their lack of understanding. The gospel seemed clear. The pressure, stress, and tension wore me out. I was physically, emotionally, and spiritually exhausted and ready to throw in the towel, when I went to a weeklong retreat conference – a Christian ashram – led by the world-famous missionary evangelist, E. Stanley Jones. It was Tom Carruth, that beloved mentor of many ...
... God. Bodies and minds are being healed. Demons, yes, demons are being cast out. People are not being physically raised from the dead – but these children from ten years to their late teens – who are dead in the eyes of the world and in their own emotional being – are being brought to life by the transforming power of the gospel which is being shared in word and relationship through Tammy and her coworkers. In one of her email notes, Tammy said, “My one goal is just to abide in Jesus, and to nurture ...
... , tells of an experience one wet summer Sunday when he went to a church in Salisbury. The tone of the service, to use the bishop’s words, was “not exactly stirring, but gently Anglican.” There was “no sense of captivating awe or overwhelming emotion of any sort, everything was decent and orderly, nothing to set the blood racing.” During the passing of the peace, Bishop Holloway looked up at the soaring chancel arch and there was what is called a “dome painting.” It pictured demons with long ...
... “a slave is private property.” So, as Christians, our relationship to God is unique. As Church, we are God’s own people, God’s possession. How long has it been since you were awestricken by that realization? I experienced it in an emotionally overwhelming way in Cuba a couple of weeks ago. Some of you know that I chair World Evangelism of the World Methodist Council. One hundred and twenty of us, representing 26 different Methodist/Wesleyan churches in South, Central, Latin, and North America, came ...
... woman’s testimony caused me to go back and live again with this, one of my favorite psalms and I decided to share my reflections with you. As I look at the psalm I realize that the psalmist is not writing in an ordered fashion. He is simply expressing his emotions as he calls to mind the things that have gone on in his life. But the preacher in me led me to change the order of the verses, and see the psalmist’s response to God and his a movement, which reaches a crescendo of joy. So, listen as I ...
... radical about my involvement, but many folks in the church could not understand my commitment and participation. I couldn’t understand their lack of understanding. The gospel seemed clear. The pressure, stress, and tension wore me out. I was physically, emotionally, and spiritually exhausted and ready to throw in the towel, when I went to a weeklong retreat conference – a Christian Ashram – led by the world-famous missionary evangelist, E. Stanley Jones. It was Tom Carruth, that beloved mentor of many ...