... . By doing this you will begin to experience a new sense of freedom. You will be emboldened to make additional sacrifices of non-essentials and your values will become more like those of Jesus himself. We should sacrifice not until it hurts, but until it begins to feel good and we come to see it is no sacrifice at all. We should come at last to understand with Plato that, "True poverty consists not in the decrease of one’s possessions, but in the increase of one’s greed." In the opinion of Gibbon, what ...
... proclaim Jesus as Lord can’t get together. Where is this rule that we proclaim and in which we believe? Are we sticking our heads in the sand? As we walk along life’s road, we find ourselves debating as those disciples debated on their way to Emmaus. We often feel as if we have lost our traveler’s cheques. Where do we go to find peace? Where do we go to find answers? What are we to do? Our story goes on to say that as the debate continues, suddenly there is a third party present. That third party can ...
... the knowledge that we belong to God, that our care, our safety, and the fulfillment of our needs is in His hands. What do you want in life? I can tell you, just as any psychologist could tell you. You want a sense of significance. You want to feel important. You want to be loved. You want security. Don’t try to deceive yourselves that anything else is going to satisfy these basic hungers. Nothing will. They remain with you until the day you die. BUT THE POINT IS THAT NONE OF THEM - NONE OF THESE BASIC ...
... questions asked of a pastor by a bereaved family is "how they should act." In the midst of their terrible sense of loss and grief, they have an agony of need for someone to tell them how to act. They don’t trust themselves enough to act the way they feel. Well, I don’t know how Jesus was SUPPOSED to act. Probably His day was as tough and brutal and cruel as ours, and He was supposed to be above crying. But however He was SUPPOSED to act, He had STRENGTH enough that when He FELT like WEEPING, He WEPT ...
... 4:1-2 If you see in a province the oppression of the poor and the violation of justice and right, do not be amazed at the matter; for the high official is watched by a higher, and there are yet higher ones over them. — 5:8 Ultimately life feels like an aimless chasing after wind. What is a Christian to do in response to the hopelessness of the human condition? Where do we go from here? Have you ever been as low on life as Lamentations and Ecclesiastes are? If not, you should be. These books are correct ...
... which helped him to understand that all our scars can't be seen, that some are worse than physical scars, they are deep inside us and infinitely more painful. It was those inner scars that Dr. Maltz sought to explore. We've all had those same feelings of inadequacy, that same feeling of hollowness and emptiness. We've tried filling that emptiness with things and nothing seems to work. There's not enough stuff in the world to even make a dent in it. So, here's our greatest need. It's not on the outside, but ...
... 5) IF THERE IS ONE DEMON THAT THE GOSPEL OF JESUS CHRIST SHOULD DISPEL, IT IS THE ONE THAT SAYS WE ARE UNLOVED. Here is the Good News for the day: we are loved. You and I can walk out of this sanctuary today with confidence. God wants us to feel free to use the creative powers within us to their fullest potential. And we can do so if we realize how much God cares about us. Psychologist Carl Rogers has put it this way: "Time and again in my clients, I have seen simple people become significant and creative ...
... said something like this, I have felt ugly inside, unworthy, undeserving of the love of my husband and my little boy. I’ve had horrible thoughts about suicide because I don’t know how I’m going to love this little one soon to be born. I feel so unlovable and incapable of love itself. Then she smiled broadly through her tears, her face was radiant and her eyes danced with joy as she said that during that weekend she had for the first time in her life accepted the fact that God loves her unconditionally ...
... out. Let me illustrate what I mean. Here is a list of "You are's" which easily become "I am's." You've no right to feel that way.If you can't say something nice, don't say anything.Why do you always do things like that?If there's a ... very insightful thing on a T.V. show. He said, " My life seems like one long obstacle course, with me as the chief obstacle." Do you feel that way sometimes -- that life is an obstacle course and that we are the chief obstacle, in living life to the fullest, as God would have ...
... is not something to talk about in the hallway. And when I smile and say, “Your life is a mess, isn’t it?” they nod in relief. So we go into the parlor and sit down. “What a nice room,” they often say. “Yes it is. We want you to feel welcome here, and safe. But before we start, let’s ask the light of Christ to shine upon us both.” I pray for the wisdom of the Holy Spirit and for protection from all that is evil and deceptive. I pray that they would have courage to simply tell the ...
... coma. Obesity is a spiritual as well as a medical and psychological problem. I find that I commit gluttony when I am anxious or fearful, which is too much of the time. Food is a safe place to hide, isn't it? A socially acceptable fix, a way to numb feelings. Being a person prone to excesses of all sorts, I often find it easier not to eat at all than in moderation. Periodic fasting is a potent reminder that my belly is not God, and that the grace of Christ is sufficient. I often cry when I fast, not because ...
... not assure him that she would survive the night. In the diary, the young man expresses his profound faith in God and God’s plans for their lives. He writes, “She may die before morning. But I have been with her for four years. . . . There is no way I could feel cheated if did not have her for another day. I never deserved her for a single moment. God knows that. And I may die before morning. What I must do now is to accept the justice of death and the injustice of life . . . What did I do to deserve ...
... almost non-existent. Now I am certainly not suggesting that we go to the practice of arranged marriages. But the point is, romantic love has little to do with a successful marriage, and love has little to do with feelings. I know love is not a feeling because you cannot command a feeling. Yet, God commands saints to love sinners, friends to love foes, and husbands to love wives. You see, love is not something you fall into. Love is something you commit to. Now it is neither incidental or coincidental, but ...
... a classic example of all of this was the sex symbol, Marilyn Monroe. You may or may not be aware of the fact that during her early years she was shuffled from one foster home to another. She gave an interview once and a reporter asked her, "Did you ever feel loved by any of the foster families with whom you lived?" Miss Monroe thought about it for a moment, and her eyes clouded up with tears as she replied, "Once, when I was about seven or eight. The woman I was living with was putting on makeup and I was ...
... , Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes and Missed Opportunities (New York: Morrow, 1989). Freeman and DeWolf look at two questions: First, what prevents us from doing what we would, could, and should do; secondly, how do we deal with those woulda, coulda, shoulda feelings of guilt and despair, those woulda, coulda, shoulda moments in our lives? The trap most people must learn to avoid is letting past coulds, woulds and shoulds so overwhelm us that it becomes impossible to act with an eye toward a ...
... about you than by anything else you could do. Love each other as I have loved you. Jesus didn't love us by simply feeling loving toward us. Jesus lived a life that embodied love. He healed the sick. He fed the hungry. He comforted the confused. He taught ... and death as his greatest demonstration of action packed love. The love Jesus wants his disciples to enter into not just to "feel" is action-packed. And love in action is sometimes embodied by the simplest of compassionate responses. This true story of a ...
... the torch faithfully, and when we arrive at our journey’s end, is our torch still aflame? Anyone can start. The question is, can you finish? Very briefly, I want to give you three reasons why we can keep on keeping on even when the going gets tough and we feel like quitting. First, I am convinced that we are never alone. Whatever God calls us to do, He will give us all we need to do it. God’s grace and strength are always sufficient. Alone I want to quit. But, with God, I can keep on going. The promise ...
... a moral free-for-all freefall, because getting rid of shame is the first sign that we just don't [care] anymore. We no longer feel the need to ask ourselves: "Gee, Is this the kind of thing a human being should be doing?" Without asking this question we lose a ... should have been ashamed. There is nothing wrong with shame, but anytime we use the shame of someone else, to make ourselves feel better about our own self-righteousness, we need to remember two things. First of all, we are not without sin either. ...
... our way and we risk losing our relationship. The Holy Spirit needs to shear our hearts of some of that wool so that we too can feel the hurts and the pains and the needs of those around us. We need the Holy Spirit to shear the wool of our hearts so ... can see the Shepherds in our midst and risk acknowledging them. We need the Holy Spirit to shear the wool of our hearts so we can feel and see who needs a word of hope and a reason to rejoice. Shepherds Teach Us To Risk. Conclusion I think the challenge for us ...
... wrong with that. It's part of who we are. It's part of being human beings. Most of us like the routine. It feels safe and comfortable. There's no challenge except which flavor Pop Tart, Eggo, or Toaster Waffle you're going to have for breakfast. Life ... weren't in control. All it took was a tiny babe to overshadow their empires forever. God is in control.: III. Own Your Feelings Third: Own Your Own Feelings about what's going on in your life. Get mad at God if you have to. I've never known anyone zapped ...
171. Dealing With the Pain of Rejection - Sermon Opener
Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32
Illustration
James W. Moore
... son might be dead! But here he is alive and well and home, safe and sound. The father is so happy that he calls for a great celebration. But when the elder brother hears of it. He is hurt, jealous, confused, and angry. He feels sorry for himself, but more than that and worse, he feels that the father has rejected him! Of course, we know better! We know that the father has not rejected him at all. In fact, the parable is misnamed. Instead of the Parable of the Prodigal Son, it should be called the Parable of ...
... true to those two words he was unhesitatingly happy. Will you practice happiness this week? That doesn’t mean you will always feel happiness. But as John Wesley taught us, sometimes you need to act as if you have faith, even when you seem to ... not, in due time you will be happy. Elton Trueblood once said that “it is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting.” That’s why Jesus said, “where your treasure is, there you heart will be also” (Luke 12 ...
... is to do so in silence or with only a few words spoken. The mourner is free to express their pain, their anger, their feelings of abandonment, and no one tries to convince them otherwise. They simply sit and listen and share food and grief. When we visit ... us to listen — in the days immediately following their loved one's death and especially weeks and months later, when they may feel as though their loved one and they have been forgotten, abandoned. II. B Is For Broken In Spirit She weeps bitterly in ...
... what we profess and how we behave. I hear about it all the time. As I get out into the community as your pastor, many feel compelled to tell me why they don’t go to church. It is not always pleasant to hear it, but I need to hear it. I ... It is always tempting to exploit our faith for selfish purposes. It is tempting to use our faith to show our intelligence or to feel superior to another. In Matthew 7 we see Jesus describing a comical but truthful example of hypocrisy: “Do not judge, or you too will ...
... or a friend or a sibling or a spouse who abused us, but somewhere along the way someone has hurt us deeply and we can still feel the pain. For some the pain is so intense that it is simply easier to cut that person out of our lives than to forgive. That is ... sinners saved by grace. We have been forgiven an enormous debt. If we can see that, it can be a powerful antidote to our feelings of resentment over a wrongdoing someone has done to us. We remember just how much God has forgiven us and we are enabled to ...