... Bands march behind her casket. Ironically, no one even knows her name. Having rejected love in pursuit of success, she dies without either. But she does have a big funeral. (3) In her own way, Verna was as needy as Lazarus. Her needs were psychological and emotional. We might even call them pathological, but they were just as real. Needy people are all around us. They are our neighbors, the people we work with, the people we love. Sometimes our Lazarus is our children or our spouse. One of the hit movies in ...
... Kathryn Rost and Dr. G. Richard Smith of the University of Arkansas School for Medical Sciences have conducted a study on the mental health of heart attack survivors. Having a heart attack is not only a severe physical shock, but also a psychological and emotional shock. Survivors often develop some degree of depression. One thing that the doctors found which greatly reduced the chances of depression was going back to work. Of the men who returned to work, only 9% showed any depression a year later. Of the ...
... difficult and humiliating. When he heard of the death of a friend's son, Beethoven hurried to the house, overcome with grief. He had no words of comfort to offer. But he saw a piano in the room. For the next half hour he played the piano, pouring out his emotions in the most eloquent way he could. When he finished playing, he left. The friend later remarked that no one else's visit had meant so much." (2) Let me ask you a question. Which means the most in our lives presents as in gifts or presence as in ...
... shut-ins who have no one to care about them do something positive, something heartwarming, something that will bring someone else joy. For joy has a way of boomeranging and giving the person who gives it more joy than the one who receives it. Joy is the natural emotion of the Christian. We dare not let it slip away. A man named Scott Walker tells about a tragedy that came into his life and how, by the grace of God, he was able to turn it into a triumph. Holding a flashlight in his hand, he wearily watched ...
... embodiment of that Grace. And ultimately it cost him his life. In his book, BECOMING A WHOLE PERSON IN A BROKEN WORLD, Ron Lee Davis tells about a young woman named Marie who was admitted to a mental hospital in Europe. She was in a terrible emotional state. She had been reared by violent, abusive parents. At age twelve, she saw her mother and father in a horrible drunken argument one night. They were fighting and struggling over a gun. Suddenly, the pistol fired, and before young Marie's eyes, her father ...
... But now she must bring up two children on her own. Her husband decided he was not ready for that kind of responsibility. He's not a deadbeat Dad, but the court-ordered child support is not nearly enough. Even more devastating is the loss of his emotional support. The waters around are rising. Life does that to us sometimes, doesn't it? There was an amusing story in the papers recently about two African gentlemen who stowed away on a Norwegian freighter in Cape Town in hopes of reaching Europe, only to learn ...
... group in the sample he studied. According to Allport, these people have a deeply interiorized religious faith and are totally committed to it. Their love of God is integral and all -encompassing. It is an open faith, with room for scientific and emotional facts. Intrinsic religious faith is a hunger for and commitment to oneness with God and all others. The intrinsically religious have little prejudice or bigotry. They practice what they preach and evidence a striking humility. (6) Now here is what we need ...
... at the University of Florida in which veterinary students staff a hotline to help grieving pet owners cope with the death of their precious animal friends. The students receive specialized training to learn how to counsel and assist callers experiencing painful emotions. "There is a tremendous need for such a service," says faculty member Thomas Lane, who spearheaded the project. Growing numbers of single and elderly people rely on pets for companionship, feeling the death of a pet as strongly as that of ...
... got from their spouse. Then the researchers asked if they were satisfied in their marriage. The husbands tended to say things were great regardless of whether their wife gave them support and respect. The women said they were happiest with their marriage when all their emotional needs were being met ” needs such as respect. (6) We probably should break down into small groups and confirm whether this is true or not. My guess is that it is. We still live in a world that does not accord women the respect ...
... is no accident that one of the best-selling books of our lifetime is titled MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. Men and women are different in wonderful ways! They are different physically, of course, but they are also different mentally and emotionally. For instance, studies show that boy babies sleep less and are more active than girl babies. Women, overall, have a better memory for names and faces than men. Women are faster and more accurate in tasks requiring manual dexterity. If a woman is stuck ...
... took the bandages off and handed her a mirror. Her scarred cheek was a thing of the past." "Then I waited for her reaction. Many patients are overjoyed when they first see their new, improved image. But her reaction was uncertain; she expressed no real positive emotion. I waited a few seconds, then said, "What do you think? Do you like it?" "She responded, `I really don't see any improvement.' "I was stunned. My surgery had been totally successful. `Would you like to see the pictures of your face before the ...
... that all persons are part of his family “and when we live in our daily lives that love he brought into the world. " . . . thou shalt call his name Jesus for he shall save his people from their sins." Indeed he shall! 1 Alan M. Dahns, EMOTIONAL INTIMACY (Boulder, Co.: Pruett Publishing Co., 1972). 2 I am indebted to Pastor Kent Raddatz, Immanuel-Wilson Lutheran Parish, Glenwood City, Wisconsin, for this illustration. 3 H.S. Vigeveno, HOW TO LIVE THE GOOD LIFE (Eugene, Ore: Harvest House Publishers, 1982).
... learn such selfless love? We do not learn it on easy street. We learn better in valleys than on mountaintops. "Blessed are those who mourn," said Jesus. What strange and difficult words those are. Yet for some people mourning can be the key to emotional and spiritual maturity. A number of years ago the personnel director of a large New York department store called an employee into his office. She was a woman loved and respected and a lifter of the morale of other workers in the organization. The personnel ...
... gripped that little woman until she almost exploded with excitement. Finally, she stood up and said, "Blanket or no blanket, AMEN!!" (1) You and I are not likely to get that excited in our worship service. But sometimes don't you wish we did? Oh, not in an emotional, showy sense. Most of us are turned off by mere emotionalism. There is a story that is very popular right now about a fellow in the South who wasn't very deep in his commitment to Christ but who loved to go to Revival meetings. Particularly if a ...
... car, but on a donkey. And when he entered the city, Jesus saw the need which was everywhere. How could anyone not see it? The city was filed with multitudes of suffering people. There were the sick, the lame, the blind and the deaf, (physically and spiritually), the emotionally ill. It was enough to make angels weep and He who is greater than ages could do no less. But most of all He wept because they did not recognize the day of their visitation. He brought to them the glad good news of the kingdom of God ...
... example of the kind of attitude that accompanies mustard seed faith. He tells of Lord Chesterton who suggested that God got a childlike excitement out of His work. "As a matter of fact, he contended that God may be the only one left in the universe who has childlike emotions about work, while all the rest of us have grown old and cynical because of sin. God never tires of what He does. He enjoys it. If you take a fiveyear old child, throw her into the air, catch her, bounce her off your knee, and then set ...
... before people get wise to that one elementary truth? That is why morality has been around for so long. It works. It guards marriages, it undergirds businesses, it watchdogs government, it is the best insurance we have of maintaining our wellbeingphysically, emotionally and spiritually. Why can't people see that? How can smart people be so dumb? I learned something about wisdom from the Special Olympics recently. Did you know that it is highly stressed that all athletes participating in the Special Olympics ...
... expect to have the strength and power of God unless we are students of His Word? That is the first step in confident living. Be prepared. IN THE SECOND PLACE, LIVE SO THAT YOU NEVER HAVE TO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR ACTIONS. There is no more destructive emotion than guilt. Can you imagine a lifetime spent looking over your shoulder afraid that some misdeed will be discovered? Some people live that way. John A. Redhead, in GETTING TO KNOW GOD, tells about a man who came to a physician with every symptom of serious ...
... . If we are wise, we will learn from them about joy and love and faith. Just as importantly, in caring for them, in loving them, in sacrificing for them we not only learn with our heads, we mature with our hearts. WE BECOME GREATER PERSONS SPIRITUALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AS WE LAY DOWN OUR LIVES FOR THE SMALLEST OF GOD'S CHILDREN. This is why Jesus was saying to his disciples that if they wanted to learn greatness they would need to learn to receive a little child: to be responsible for, to encourage, to cradle ...
... we deal with this issue of a woman's place. THE FIRST IS TO RECOGNIZE AND TO CELEBRATE THE FACT THAT THERE ARE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN. As the French say, "Vive la difference!" There are physical differences, but there are also emotional and cultural and psychological differences. For instance, studies show that boy babies sleep less and are more active than girl babies. Studies have shown that women have a better memory for names and faces. This fact supports other data that indicate that women ...
... was startled to learn of Mary's condition, as you might imagine. At first, he had second thoughts about their impending marriage. He didn't want to humiliate Mary publicly. He loved her too much for that. He resolved to put her away quietly. Joseph's emotions remind me of something that happened to Mark Maurer of Hilton Head, South Carolina. For some reason Mark was in the doghouse with his wife. He wanted to make amends so he ordered her some flowers and told the florist that the card should read, "I ...
... like this, “If you make but little of Christ, Christ will make little of you.” Torry, as usual, is saying something important to us here. We need a Christ who is Master of wind and the waves. We need a Christ to whom both physical illness and emotional pain are manageable crises. We need a Christ who can make us think in terms of being victors rather than victims. “Behold the Lamb . . .” says John and we need to do that. We need to look beyond our present difficulties to the One who can deliver us ...
... home, Philo left the palace of his father and wandered alone in the countryside. There he heard of a Galilean who went about preaching love, healing the sick and lame, and feeding the hungry. Philo sought out Jesus. Jesus healed him, not only physically but spiritually and emotionally. Philo was even able to forgive his father for making him feel like a failure as a son for all those years. From then on, Philo followed Jesus wherever He went, and it is said that on the day God's only Son Jesus was crucified ...
... on Easter Sunday, however, George's car again appeared, and George went into church. The pastor delivered a stirring resurrection sermon and then, as was his custom, invited the members of the congregation to respond. Whereupon, George stood up and with deep emotion said firmly, "Rosie lives!" Then he began to sing "My wild Irish Rose/ the sweetest flower that grows..." One person joined in, then another, and another. Finally everyone present was joyfully singing the most beautiful Easter hymn ever sung in ...
... acquaintance agreed and started to leave the room. The old man rose up on his elbow and spoke one final word, “But remember, if I get well our old quarrel still stands.” We can understand his attitude. The need for revenge is a powerful emotion. However, compare his attitude with a woman in Florida who was raped, shot in the head, brutally mutilated and left to die. Astoundingly, she survived the ordeal--though she was left permanently blind. In a television interview the host of the show was reflecting ...