... , George." A lady overheard his remarks and said, "You sure are patient with little George." The harried father responded, "Lady, that's Matthew, I'm George!" We might also conclude that along with the Spirit's Wisdom is given to us the fruit of self-control! You see, there is a perception and discernment which is not inherent within us by nature. But the Spirit's perception gives a keenness and astuteness that we can never claim as our own. It is rather that wonderful, divine Wisdom from him which quickens ...
... a move from two days of calling hours at funeral homes to a single day and, often, no calling hours at all. In fact, many would say, "Happy are the hard-boiled, for they never let life hurt them." Stoic philosophers would say, "Do not mourn. Self-control is a better answer than sorrow." It does seem that for many folks insulating themselves from their feelings and the pain of others is their way of life. Many seem content being hollow people living without the compassion of Christ. There are people who, as ...
... a move from two days of calling hours at funeral homes to a single day and, often, no calling hours at all. In fact, many would say, "Happy are the hard-boiled, for they never let life hurt them." Stoic philosophers would say, "Do not mourn. Self-control is a better answer than sorrow." It does seem that for many folks insulating themselves from their feelings and the pain of others is their way of life. Many seem content being hollow people living without the compassion of Christ. There are people who, as ...
... the spiritual "have nots" who must trust and depend wholly upon God and his promises. However, Jesus has in mind for us something more than our passively staying out of trouble ... trusting God, being deeply sorry for the suffering of the world, practicing self-control, and longing for perfect righteousness. The works of faith are not passive. They are active and outreaching. Now the disciples, solidly established in faith and with a firm hold on God's promises, are free to live in love, being of a single ...
... convinced that a disciplined approach to study of God's word will yield a rich harvest - "I treasure your word in my heart, so that I may not sin against you" (Psalm 119:11). Move to the New Testament and find St. Paul saying, "Athletes exercise self-control in all things." Runners do not run with no sense of direction; boxers do not simply flail about in the air. If Paul knew anything about golf, he WOULD have understood the concept of beatin' balls and beatin' balls. If someone wants to WIN, the effort ...
... set of controls, making self-governance possible? We are talking here about the development of character, and parents do their children no good if they simply use technology as a further extension of discipline externally applied and not eventually internally cultivated. Self-control is absolutely necessary if one wants a life worth the living. Or think of the value and joy of being soulful instead of reactive and shallow. A friend had a rather large tree taken down recently. It looked basically healthy ...
... after you get married. One man was reading the newspaper and said to his wife, "Did you know that every time I breathe, three Chinese die?" She said, "It doesn't surprise me one bit." I say to you, never quit courting your spouse. d. Self Control There's an old saying, "He who would not fall down should not walk in slippery places." The Bible says "flee fornication." Adultery, fornication, sexual immorality are not sins you should fight, they are sins you should flee. The best way to keep from being ...
108. How to Really Love Your Child
Illustration
Dr. Ross Campbell
... when they please us (conditional love), and convey our love to them only during those times, they will not feel genuinely loved. This in turn will make them insecure, damage their self-image, and actually prevent them from moving on to better self-control and more mature behavior. Therefore, their behavior is our responsibility as much as theirs. If we love them unconditionally, they will feel good about themselves and be comfortable with themselves. They will then be able to control their anxiety and, in ...
... “everyone did what was right in their own eyes?” 4) Reason: can we use the gray matter God gave us to figure things for ourselves and not just trust others to do our thinking for us? These four things, Paul suggests, are our “better angels:” empathy, self-control, morality and reason. Some of our better angels have become lazy and fat. Some of them may even by now be disabled and bored. Let’s wake up our angels. Let’s give our “better angels” a workout this week. Let’s be on the side of ...
... the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God — what is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2). It is easy to fall into the trap of “worldly passions,” and forget that Jesus calls us to “live lives that are self-controlled, upright, and godly.” We do not follow the ways of the world as much as we live our lives for Jesus. We must remain focused on Jesus. We respond to God’s grace by responding to Jesus allowing him to enter and change our lives. Our goal ...
... not register with us as a completely ridiculous image. Living rock? Dead Messiah? Christians in the first century were crazy. They believed in the power of God issued through a Son crucified on a cross Jesus. They believed in forgiveness through self-denial and self-control. They believed in the power of love over the power of the state. It was revolutionary stuff. It was crazy first century stuff that still sounds crazy to many of us. These are some of the most revolutionary thoughts and metaphors in the ...
... , from which we derive the English words methodical, planning, inquiry, and so on, also means “cunning, subtlety, and scheming cleverness”—hence devil’s schemes or “wiles” of the devil (RSV). The language is quite similar to another exhortation in Scripture: “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (1 Pet. 5:8). 6:12 In addition to the devil, believers face a host of wicked spiritual forces, described as rulers (arch ...
... , where the verb is again katheudō (see disc. on 5:6), and those who get drunk, get drunk at night. In contrast with such activities (and Paul now returns to the exhortation of v. 6 and develops it), since we (the believers) belong to the day, let us be self-controlled (nephō, again see disc. on 5:6), putting on faith and love as a breastplate, and the hope of salvation as a helmet (cf. Rom. 13:12; 2 Cor. 6:7; 10:4; Eph. 6:11–17). The familiar metaphor of armor might have been suggested by a glimpse ...
... to all the teachings in the Sermon on the Mount. We should always keep before us the list of Christian attributes that are recorded by Paul in Galatians. These are: “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Paul said Jesus is going to return in final judgment, but until then we are to wait patiently living a life that is reflected as one of love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and ...
... in a cast-iron skillet, I should live with only one of the six that I had saved. Never mind that my grandmother and my mother had given me two of those skillets; I just couldn’t remember which ones. They even launched personal attacks on my self-control and discipline, implying with winks and nods that I was never going to lose enough weight to get into all those clothes that I had saved ― blue jeans and t-shirts that were in perfectly good condition except for the shrinkage which would require me to ...
... up from the area near the Jordan River and was stranded in a snowstorm. The presence of that lion was not under Benaiah’s control. However, what Benaiah could control and what we can control is our reaction to the problems we face. That type of self-control is a personal goal worth developing. Benaiah’s example helps us to crystallize just such an intention. Thirdly, a hero cultivates our retention. Although it was a snowy day and the lion was in a pit, Benaiah did not run away; he held his ground ...
... matures from back to front, with the areas that control physical coordination, sight, hearing, and other skills maturing throughout the childhood and teen years. The prefrontal cortex at the front of the brain the part that controls critical thinking, judgment, self-control, and other high-functioning skills is the last to mature. With this in mind, it makes sense that teens seem more impulsive, emotional, or indecisive than adults. The teenager’s brain is still going through the maturation process, and ...
118. Control Your Temper
Mt 18:15-35
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King Duncan
... and some of the men were wounded. In one notorious incident, he slapped a hospitalized, shell-shocked soldier, and denounced the man for being a coward. Patton's commander, General Dwight D. Eisenhower, did not believe that Patton lacked self-control, only that he was refusing to practice it. He ordered Patton to publicly apologize for slapping the soldier, put Patton on probation, and postponed his promotion to general. Notice this: after this reprimand by Eisenhower, there were no more reports that ...
... are not just the opposite of the fruits of the Spirit, they are the enemies of those fruits. Fear, anger, anxiety and the need to control cannot co-exist with the true fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal. 5: 22-23). The apostle Paul shares a vision of eternal hope in his letter to the church at Ephesus, in Ephesians 1: 9-10. He writes, “God has now revealed to us his mysterious will regarding Christ—which is to fulfill his ...
... audience to look beyond the moment. He wants them to look towards the real prize they should be focused on, the imperishable victory offered by Christ's death and resurrection. To reach this great prize, Paul asserts, will take great self-discipline, or self-control. It will take a personal commitment to living a Christ-like life, a personal goal of wearing the imperishable wreath of redemption. Paul's image is of an individual runner--only one receives the prize. But his words are directed to the entire ...
... to the central Torah commands (e.g., 15:1–20) and by a desire for honor (23:1–12; cf. 6:1–18). Here Jesus adds the accusation of greed and self-indulgence. The latter (akrasia [see 1 Cor. 7:5]) refers to a lack of self-control. Though the Pharisees in Matthew outwardly appear to be all that they should be, their insatiable desire for more defines them. 23:26 First clean the inside of the cup. Jesus teaches that attention to the inward life necessarily impacts what others can observe about a ...
... importantly, a training camp for the life to come. The Spirit does not exempt Christians from hardship, but he promises to support them in it. The NT lays great emphasis on the virtue of endurance (Mark 13:13), and on patience, faithfulness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22–23) as signs of genuine faith. The ninth admonition is to share with God’s people who are in need (v. 13). Hospitality and generosity were hallmarks of early Christianity, and sharing was an important way by which Christians identified ...
... is Spirit full not by signs of its worship, not by its behavior in the pew, but by its witness to the Spirit. Consider the fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians: “… love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control….” Does our church display these characteristics? Do we as individuals demonstrate these qualities? Are we Spirit full or Spirit foul? One of the things that irritates me about people who judge my spirituality is that they give me a painful reminder ...
... the study, were found to have come from homes that demanded the strictest accountability and responsibility. And as could have been predicted, the family ties remained the strongest not in the wishy-washy homes but in the homes where discipline and self-control had been a way of life. The homes of the high esteem group were also characterized by democracy and openness. Once the boundaries for behavior were established, there was freedom for individual personalities to go undeveloped. The boys could express ...
... power come from? It comes from the Holy Spirit planted in your heart when you first trusted in Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. St. Paul reminded us that “God did not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, and of love, and of self-control.” (2 Tim. 1:7) The cure for the Grasshopper Complex is not to psyche yourself into pretending that you’re Superman or Superwoman. If you have no resources other than your own, you are a grasshopper. But you’re not on your own! Almighty God is our refuge ...