... us to be perfect, challenges and calls us on to perfection and then offers mercy, grace and forgiveness for those times when we fail. We have a God who understands being "Mad and Good." Conclusion Comedian Buddy Hackett says: "Don't carry a grudge. While you're carrying the grudge the other guy's out dancing." (2) A guy was on his death bed, all of a sudden his heart was filled fear because he had harbored anger and hatred against another man. He sent for that individual. They dying man made overtures ...
... part of being human. Thus, sometimes we will hurt or offend others and others will hurt us. We must move beyond this initial step, admit our mistakes, the errors of our way, our sins, and then we can begin to move forward. We cannot live in the past. Holding a grudge against others keeps them at a distance for no logical reason. Can any of us imagine if God acted in such a way with any of us? What would we do if we felt that God was selective in his forgiveness and reconciliation? God's message of love and ...
... eulogy for Saul and Jonathan with what appears as true grief for both of them. But, I think there is something more going on here. David is more than just a good politician. David is filled with the Spirit of the living God, a God who doesn't hold grudges against us no matter what we have done. David's eulogy is full of grace because he is filled with the grace of God. He understands that the greatest honor one has as a spiritual leader, whether pastor or lay, is to usher someone into the presence of the ...
... . What in the world do you need bread for in the middle of the night anyway?" The more he persists, the more annoyed I become until, grudgingly, I rise, calm my children who are now wide awake, and get the bread and try ... try, at least, to be civil and kind. This ... we forgive." Since then, every time I feel I have been wronged and want to get even, or at least, want to hold onto a righteous grudge, I begin to sing the chorus of that song in my mind and heart. And, if I am open to the God who forgives me no ...
... take time. We do not build relationships overnight, but rather over a long period of time. Clearly, the important things in life are earned by some type of patient endurance. Paul next asks us to bear with one another and to be forgiving. Too often we hold grudges and will not let the past go — past problems, hurts, or injuries, those we have initiated and those perpetrated against us. We use these events of the past as tools to “hammer” people today for the things of the past. Yet, holding onto a ...
... also take time. We do not build relationships overnight, but rather over a long period of time. Clearly, the important things in life are earned by some type of patient endurance. Paul next asks us to bear with one another and to be forgiving. Too often we hold grudges and will not let the past go — past problems, hurts, or injuries, those we have initiated and those perpetrated against us. We use these events of the past as tools to "hammer" people today for the things of the past. Yet, holding onto a ...
... their lives, they would have to grow into their status as God’s chosen people. True to his nature, the Lord didn’t hold a grudge against Moses or the people. He responded favorably to Moses’ request. And he did something else. In a way, he told Moses, “You want me ... have to say to us when we feel that God’s not on speaking terms with us? It assures us that God doesn’t hold grudges and that he’s always willing to open his arms wide to us. What’s even more beautiful, he’s waiting for us to ...
... have to forgive someone?” When do you finally get to replace forgiveness with bitterness? When is it finally okay to carry a grudge against someone?” I am glad you asked, because Jesus answered that question. [Turn to Matthew 18] You know it is one thing to ... to you, you will forget what you have done to God. If you sleep in a bed of bitterness, if you’ve got a stranglehold on a grudge you won’t let go of, you’ve made up your mind no matter what I or anyone else says, you’re not going to forgive ...
... , wrong, says theologian Paul Tillich. Yet, God sent not his Son into the world to judge and condemn the world because of sin. Instead God sent his Son so that he might save the world. As God does not bear the grudge against us that he deserves to bear, so he asks us not to bear the grudge against those who probably deserve it. Instead, forgive, that is, give their life back to start all over again. "Vengeance is mine," says the Lord, "I will repay." Our task is to forgive and to work with people trying to ...
60. I Remember Forgetting
Illustration
Michael P. Green
A friend of Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross, once reminded her of an especially cruel thing that had been done to her years before. But Miss Barton seemed not to recall it. “Don’t you remember it?” her friend asked. “No,” came the reply, “I distinctly remember forgetting it.” You can’t be free and happy if you harbor grudges, so put them away. Get rid of them. Collect postage stamps, or collect coins, if you wish—but don’t collect grudges.
James 4:13-17, James 5:1-6, James 5:7-12, James 5:13-20
Understanding Series
Peter H. Davids
... . First, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. Confession of sin is important for healing. Pastors experienced in the Christian healing ministry repeatedly witness to times when the confession of a resentment, a grudge, or an unforgiven injury has lead to physical healing with or without further prayer. But James is generalizing beyond the individual healing situation, for now it is not “to the elders” but to each other that confession is made. The picture is ...
... mind and will, the heart governs the intentions and direction of economic action. In each of three uses (vv. 7, 9, and 10) the warning is against a malicious will. The heart can be hard (v. 7), filled with a wicked thought (v. 9), or grudging (v. 10; lit. “evil”). Deuteronomy is well aware of the self-interest of those who wield economic power and dictate economic policy and realizes that justice for the poor requires a wholly different mindset translated into personal and political will power. It is a ...
... that a person will bear the consequences. With verse 18 we reach the center of the chapter, on a high note of morality. The verse begins with a clarification of what it means not to hate in verse 17: Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge. Feelings of resentment and vengeful actions are prohibited; anger will fester and come out in distorted ways. In contrast to such is love. The love of neighbor consists of a commitment to the welfare and best interests of another person, whether citizen or sojourner. Verses ...
James 5:1-6, James 4:13-17, James 5:7-12, James 5:13-20
Understanding Series
Peter H. Davids
... . First, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. Confession of sin is important for healing. Pastors experienced in the Christian healing ministry repeatedly witness to times when the confession of a resentment, a grudge, or an unforgiven injury has lead to physical healing with or without further prayer. But James is generalizing beyond the individual healing situation, for now it is not “to the elders” but to each other that confession is made. The picture is ...
James 5:7-12, James 4:13-17, James 5:1-6, James 5:13-20
Understanding Series
Peter H. Davids
... . First, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. Confession of sin is important for healing. Pastors experienced in the Christian healing ministry repeatedly witness to times when the confession of a resentment, a grudge, or an unforgiven injury has lead to physical healing with or without further prayer. But James is generalizing beyond the individual healing situation, for now it is not “to the elders” but to each other that confession is made. The picture is ...
James 5:13-20, James 4:13-17, James 5:1-6, James 5:7-12
Understanding Series
Peter H. Davids
... . First, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. Confession of sin is important for healing. Pastors experienced in the Christian healing ministry repeatedly witness to times when the confession of a resentment, a grudge, or an unforgiven injury has lead to physical healing with or without further prayer. But James is generalizing beyond the individual healing situation, for now it is not “to the elders” but to each other that confession is made. The picture is ...
... , skill, initiative to get it done, to build room after room, roof, floor, and doors. It is the metaphor of the inner temple. It can be a place where God resides, or a place you litter with the things of the world, bad thoughts, evil intentions, grudges, anger. A house must have a foundation. It can’t be built without one. And one must choose where to build it, upon what foundation. Everything built up comes up from that foundation and is of that foundation. If the foundation cannot be moved or broken ...
... men who arrested John, bound him, and put him in prison on account of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, because Herod had married her. For John had been telling Herod, “It is not lawful for you to have your brother’s wife.” And Herodias had a grudge against him, and wanted to kill him. But she could not, for Herod feared John, knowing that he was a righteous and holy man, and he protected him. When he heard him, he was greatly perplexed; and yet he liked to listen to him. But an opportunity came ...
... with them, afraid they would meet the enemy somewhere and have nothing to shoot at it. In terms of specific gravity, grudges are about as heavy as cannonballs. But it makes little sense to carry them. Most likely, the "enemy" is unaware of your enmity, and surely would be surprised to learn that you've been stalking him with a cannonball in your pocket. So examine your grudges. Do what armies do when hostilities are over: unload the cannonballs and stack them on the courthouse lawn. Then marvel at ...
... than a penny by today's standards, was given in humility, grew out of her love for God and was given out of a deep sense of thankfulness. True giving always responds out of thankfulness. There are three kinds of giving. There is grudge giving, duty giving and "thanks" giving. Grudge giving gives but doesn't really want to and feels forced into it either by peer pressure or guilt. Duty giving gives simply because it knows it's supposed to and is afraid of the consequences if it doesn't. But "thanks" giving ...
... . We've come here this morning to worship. Yet alas, we come as if nothing has happened, as if all the old boundaries, the old labels, the old divisions and distinctions are still in place. Someone has brought an old grudge from a long ago affront suffered at the hands of a relative, a grudge which has kept her away from family gatherings for twenty years. Somebody else is seething, eaten up with resentment for one who was once a friend because that person succeeded in a way that he did not. Secret, unseen ...
... sentence we can bestow upon ourselves. Unhealed anger can lead to all kinds of health issues, even dementia! Our brains and bodies are simply not equipped to carry that kind of a load for an extended period of time. When we hold onto our anger and grudges, pain and resentment, past and present hurts, the person we are harming is not the person who harmed us, but ourselves, our own body and soul. We need freedom and healing from the disease of “anger and pain” that is eating us alive. To heal ourselves ...
... of the Spirit. Contentious people cannot receive the Spirit's presence. If, as individuals, and as a church, we desire the Holy Spirit, it might be well to ask ourselves: "Am I in unity with God? Is everyone forgiven? Has restitution been made? Am I holding a grudge? Am I in love and harmony with God and neighbor?" Until we are of one mind and heart, until we love each other as Christ loved us, until all broken relationships are healed, the power of Pentecost cannot come to us! The Specifics Of The Spirit's ...
... night? Will he delay long in helping them? I tell you, he will quickly grant justice to them." God does not have to be cajoled, pestered, hounded or worn down before he will hear the cries of his people. If a ruthless judge will finally and grudgingly respond to patience and persistence, how much more will God? Throughout the ages the people of God have had to wait with patient and persistent faith for God to act to give them justice. Think of the children of Israel enduring slavery in Egypt for hundreds ...