... ourselves. Nobody gets up in the morning and says, "Boy, I think I'll tell myself a whopper of a lie today ... and then believe it." But that's what we do. We believe the lie that we have to make ourselves acceptable before we can be accepted, and our feelings fall right in line. They back us up all the way. On the other hand, what does the Bible say? The Bible says that we can be healed. We need to forsake the lies and believe the truth. The truth is that we can replace the heaviness of inappropriate shame ...
... some may like that phrasing better. The word “priest” has a sort of strangeness about it to us Protestants and some of us feel a bit uncomfortable in using it. There has been a mystery surrounding the word that almost scares us. What I want to make ... and the space between the lines and the efforts behind the words are enough Ben thanked me for listening to him and understanding his feelings and being his friend he wished he could have seen me while I was in Richton There was a P.S. to his letter that ...
... wants to keep holding on to God, but his confidence in God has been severely shaken. As in 3:11–16, Job wishes that he had been stillborn rather than born only to endure adversity. 10:20 Turn away from me so I can have a moment’s joy. Job feels that the intimidating presence of God has destroyed his capacity for joy. Like a prisoner on death row granted the final delight of a special meal before his execution, Job calls on God to relent and give him a few days of peace before his death (cf. 7:16). 10 ...
... isn't possible to be close to someone without being angry at times. We let our loved ones get close to us by letting them feel our anger when it is there. And if we get to the point where we are always caving in and valuing submission to others, then ... we get angry or sad we take it out on the young ones or the old folks. We resort to anger and violence because we feel impotent and scared. Fortunately, our Bible is also a record of how people through the centuries have resolved anger. I turn our attention to ...
... over all that happens in life, so Job has to conclude that what is happening to him must be attributed to God, even though it seems out of character for God to act this way. This is what makes Job’s situation so painful and perplexing to him. Because Job feels rejected by both humans and God, he can see no hope for the future. If he had only human oppressors, then he could count on God to intervene for him. But because God seems to be in on the attack, there is nowhere else to turn for help. Job therefore ...
... him, to let him guide us in our efforts, so that we too can learn the relational art of critique, the kind that leads to change and healing, peace and humanity. Jesus came not just to tell people what to do and how to live, but how to feel peaceful in spirit and loving in heart. For the artful heart is also a peaceful and positive heart, a content and stable heart. The Christian Art of Critique not something we can learn to “do” by following another rule or inhaling more wisdom, but by following Jesus ...
... for us. That is what we preach. God knows each one of us, he knows what we go through and he cares for us. He wants to wipe away the tears from our eyes. But at some point both our friends, and God, would say it's time you stop feeling, and start acting. Stop focusing on "me" all the time and start thinking about somebody else. benShea tells an old rabbinic story. He says that the difference between heaven and hell is not the size of the portions that you get to eat. If you are in heaven, or in ...
... taking care of his own. But let the tension build and the frustrations mount, let life put its knee in our stomachs and start to pin us to the mat, and you begin to wonder, where is God? When this happens, do what the psalmist did. Tell God how you feel. This will help because it will remind you that God is near enough to hear your complaints. God’s program is not like a poorly managed restaurant. You know the kind — the food is cold and tasteless and the service is poor. When you try to complain to the ...
... problem. Remember to laugh and use your sense of humor. And finally…. IV. REMEMBER THAT GOD ACCEPTS YOU. He is with you. This, of course, is most important of all; it’s the key message of the Gospels. It’s the real good news for those who feel rejected! It’s the point of the parable, isn’t it… the gracious accepting, caring love of God. William Barclay put it like this: “So then for me the supreme truth of Christianity is that in Jesus I see God. When I see Jesus feeding the hungry, comforting ...
... us back home again. When people are filled with dejection,they are often told to put themselves in someone else's shoes, and then they might feel better. But we don't have to do that now, because Christ has already put Himself in our shoes. He's been where we are; in ... today in His own language, but they are words everyone can understand: "Eloi, Eloi, la'ma sabachtha'ni?" He knows what it means to feel God forsaken. But He is the One who says to us, "Fear not." He is the One who says, "Lo, I am with you always, ...
... up a mountain to talk to God, a God he’s told them about but whom they have not themselves seen. And before they knew it, he’s been gone three months! Let’s face it. They don’t think he’s coming back. They probably feel, they’ve been duped, mislead. Maybe they are feeling a little bit foolish. Think about it. What if your husband or wife or child or best friend leaves and goes on a business trip for three months. And for the entire time, you have no contact. You don’t hear from him or her. No ...
... a move to do something about them. At all costs you and I, if we are to remain Christian, must keep alive a certain uncomfortable feeling within ourselves. A person who did that for me early in life was a boy named P.J. Crowley. I met P.J. when I ... churches meet the needs of their customers. In such a clinic the pastor does spiritual diagnosis and counseling from the pulpit so that I "feel good" about myself and God when I leave church. The preacher "pumps me up" so I can meet the illusions of my world and ...
... say, "Oh forget it; it doesn’t matter," I haven’t really forgiven. I’ve just overlooked what you have done and have no feeling of being forgiven. In fact you probably soon convince yourself that I owed you that dime and should have given even more out of ... lose my dime, and if you see in my eyes the loss - and then if out of my tragedy I say you are forgiven, you feel a bit of the meaning of forgiveness. That is a simple - in every sense of the word - illustration, but perhaps it hints at the meaning ...
... So there are some, an increasing number I suspect in our time, in this secular age, who know nothing about guilt, and who ought to feel guilty. It would do them some good. And it would do society good as well. We would raise the level of quality of life in ... shoulder, we just walked together up the hill and back into the family.1 That's the same story that Jesus told about a son, feeling guilty, afraid to come home, afraid to face the father. But when he had the courage to do that, and to ask forgiveness, he ...
... is not "here" for the things that are. We deny our liberator because the signs pointing to Him are missing. And we grasp our bondage again because we see relief in view. Let's not reject what we know to be true for what seems to be true. What we feel and sense are real and legitimate, but why should what we experience deny what is true. The Israelites did not remember God and give Him a chance to respond. They saw another answer. Will you too forget Him for the answers of the world or self? Since they saw ...
... , dearest, then, While I rose up against my doom, And yearn’d to burst the folded gloom, To bare the eternal Heavens again, To feel once more, in placid awe, The strong imagination roll A sphere of stars about my soul, In all her motion one with law; If ... sun, And in the setting thou art fair. What art thou then? I cannot guess; But tho’ I seem in star and flower To feel thee some diffusive power, I do not therefore love thee less: My love involves the love before; My love is vaster passion now; Tho’ ...
... I deny that I am the job that I perform every day. I deny that I am my relationships. I deny that I am my feelings. In some ways, that exercise is superficial. It's one thing to say to yourself, "Of course I am not my clothes. Of course, ... thing to say, "I am not my relationships." It is another thing to lose relationships, or to have them change profoundly. Some of you may feel that this morning as you anticipate a child going off to kindergarten. Who will you be if you don't have that preschooler arounnd ...
... do with us, and what we do with the flow that is present in our lives. I think most of us can identify with that woman. Some feelings or actions are very hard for us to tolerate in ourselves, even though they may not appear to be so bad when seen in someone else’ ... is that most of the time most of us just do what we can. We are very human when you get right down to it. Our feelings and our emotions flow, and we’re not always in control of that flow, in spite of what our ideals tell us. We do not always ...
... , and he had to keep them away. As this man described his wall, he said that now he was looking for a way to build a gate in the wall. He was tired of the isolation, the loneliness. Other people have used other symbols to describe similar feelings. One person feels as though he lives in a kind of cave. He comes out occasionally, but when other people approach him, he retreats to the safety of darkness in his cave. His struggle is to be able to leave the cave and live in the world of people. Another person ...
... gods do to me the same as he did to them.” You know what Jezebel meant. She meant, “Elijah, I’m going to kill you.” Then, Elijah got blue. Elijah fled for his life and went and hid in the wilderness. Out in the wilderness, he started to feel sorry for himself and he cried out to God: Lord God almighty, I have always served you -- you alone. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed all your prophets. I am the only one left -- and they are trying ...
... Isaiah knew that as he spoke the recorded words in this Old Testament lesson. He urged his people to remember, hope in the midst of despair. He encouraged them not to forget the need to move in the midst of their encampment, and he sparked their homeward feelings as they sat glued to the land in exile. The real meaning of this beautiful text from Isaiah is that God always remembers us. He never forgets. When he remembers, he acts on our behalf and makes us remember, too. Then he leads us to learn from ...
... miles away, and we don’t want to worry them. They can’t do anything about our hurts and needs anyway. We are also told that husbands and wives do not spend a great deal of time in conversation, and find it difficult to tell each other what they are feeling. Can we go and talk to our bosses? We often do, but then we wonder if our career has been hurt because of these visits. Only the strong and the fit get promoted. We have to maintain an image. I suppose that we even question whether we can talk to ...
... , but as a mother. She knows she is loved. They "taught me," she said, "that God loved me totally, unconditionally, and that he had a purpose for my life." No one who knows the unconditional love of God in their heart will allow the world to make them feel rejected for long. When we have the love of God in our hearts, we carry a sense of security that the world cannot take away. And that sense of unconditional love is available to all who will receive it. "The stone which the builders rejected, the same is ...
... exists when you are as interested in fulfilling the needs of the other as you are in having your own needs fulfilled.” Now, that is love! In that Upper Room so long ago, Jesus did not say to His disciples, “I have given you an example that you have good feelings toward one another.” Not at all. I recall the story of a couple of Quakers who were discussing a third man, a farmer who had had a terrible year. His barn had burned down, he lost all of his cattle, and his crops had failed. One of them said ...
... Finally that resentment will explode and the camel goes berserk. In Asia, when a camel driver senses trouble, he will give his coat to the animal. The camel takes out its resentment on the garment jumping on it, biting it, tearing it to pieces. When the camel feels it has blown its top enough, man and animal can live together in harmony again. (4) Don’t you wish that would work with human beings? Many wives would be thrilled to give their husband one of their garments for him to take out his resentment on ...