... that we don't need to think things through or that feelings are not important. I am not saying that you put you mind or your emotions in neutral, but that is not the first place to turn to when we are trying to decide what we need to do in a given ... very, very uncomfortable - your underarms get raw, your hands get tired. If you really want to wear yourself out mentally and emotionally, try to make difficult decisions in your life without consulting what God says in His Word and consulting what you believe God ...
... head high, and to soldier on.6 One more example: The great Christian writer C. S. Lewis was sent to an English boarding school as a child, where the schoolmaster was a paragon of cruelty, running his little empire brutally on the whim of his own nasty emotions, beating his students for the fun of it, and so on. In writing about the experience from an adult perspective, Lewis said that life at this "vile boarding school [was] a good preparation for the Christian life, [in] that it teaches one to live by hope ...
... pretty well despite these things. We simply do not have any conclusive explanation why people survive the traumas of life as well as they do. He goes on to say that while we do know why some people commit suicide, we don't know why others, with similar emotional scars, don't.3 He suggests that grace is the reason for how well people do despite the damage in their lives. The fourth verse recalls God's promise of goodness, and that reminds us that grace is a gift of God. In Ephesians, Paul put it, "For ...
... plate in a hall echoing only with the sound of his too-late regret. Perhaps you recognize the pain in David's words because it resonates with some feeling of your own because of something you deeply regret. There is no question but that the heart of regret is emotional pain. And "the worst thing about pain," says author and priest Eugene Kennedy, "is that it doesn't kill us; we never die of pain, although sometimes we wish that we could, if only to put an end to it." And what he goes on to say sounds as ...
... -seller lists for a long time. He has another book, not quite as well known, titled People of the Lie, which is a study of evil. In it, he makes the case that occasionally people whom counselors encounter are driven not by one of the mental or emotional problems already identified by the study of human behavior, but by evil itself, and he makes a compelling case. But what is of interest to us today is what he describes as ways a counselor may begin to make that diagnosis. He suggests two things initially ...
... Magdalene's Day"? The evidence is there. The Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and, in particular, John differ. However, we learn that each of the four has a unique contribution. John's Gospel places before us a lovely story, featuring Mary Magdalene. It is immersed in emotion and we are recipients of the picture of a woman who loved and cared deeply about Jesus. He responded to her hurt and lostness. He called her by name and the heavens burst forth in songs of praises. Question what you will about her but ...
... the floor beside the dresser. To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed, stood the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins. I walked over to the pickle jar, dug down into my pocket, and pulled out a fistful of coins. With a gamut of emotions choking me, I dropped the coins into the jar. I looked up and saw that Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our eyes locked, and I knew he was feeling the same ...
... of disinterest, of absence, or just of confusion. For some, daddy is the one who was never satisfied, never affirming, and never touchable. Dad was always too busy, always distracted, and always disappointed. For some, father left emotional scars that are still felt years later. For too many, the scars are not emotional. No, for some, Paul's comparing God to daddy was not a helpful thing. And that's why I wanted to help Paul along with this retelling of an old, familiar story, with a slightly new twist ...
... important. But there is a missing element. There is always the specialness of species that is an impenetrable border. When the woman is brought to the man by God there is an immediate connection. Here’s a revelation for you. Men, about all that male reticence and difficulty in showing emotions. It’s wasn’t there from the beginning. It was something we “ish-es” learned over time. When the first “ish” was introduced to the “ishah,” what does Adam do? He starts gushing with a gully-washers of ...
... Kopits apart from some of his colleagues is how involved he gets with his patients. "I love them," Kopits admits. "The preached doctrine is that you cannot be a good physician if you get emotionally involved with your patients. My doctrine is that you cannot be a good physician unless you do get emotionally involved." He also reports that his major motivation for working with dwarfs is not because they are dwarfs per se, but because “they are a disabled population that was not being helped.” Kopits didn ...
... tell of his courtship and marriage to an unfaithful wife and the impact of children born into the affair. "Jezreel," "Lo-ruhamah," and "Lo-ammi" bore the impact of the infidelity — much like "not-pitied" children of broken homes bear the emotional scars today, emotionally disowned as "not my people." And, like many of today's youngsters they acted out their anguish in rebellion. Those of you with less-than-perfect children might, perhaps, have an inkling. But a few of you, who have perhaps personally ...
... in this congregation today, who would tell you the story of spending their lives trying to be professionally successful, trying to be financially secure – one of them would tell you about the wife he lost in the process; and the other would tell you about the emotional ravagement of his children in the process; and another would tell you about dreams that turn into empty dust when he reached the top because it didn’t give the meaning that he thought it would give. Do you hear what I’m saying? Do you ...
... for reassurance and support. Functional families realize, know instinctively or have learned that as human beings our physical, emotional and spiritual needs are fulfilled through relationships. So, they nurture those relationships. Does that mean there won't ... not get hurt? Probably not. But for a strong, functional, Christian family it probably means there won't be any emotional, spiritual or physical scars associated with the event. You see, members of a functional family believe in the inherent "goodness ...
639. A Collapse of Concentration
Luke 4:1-13
Illustration
David Humpal
... was: you only won because our player made a mistake. They didn't realize that fatal mistake was preceded by a series of pressure-creating moves that finally resulted in a collapse of concentration. All tournament chess players face that – they have to try to not emotionally respond to a tense situation on the chessboard and allow their game to fall apart. This is why God allows testing to come our way. He wants us to learn how to not respond to the pressure, and learn how to go through the difficulty ...
640. Dealing With the Pain of Rejection - Sermon Opener
Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32
Illustration
James W. Moore
... her. One person for some unknown reason had "black-balled" her and the trauma of that blatant rejection was too much for her. She couldn't handle it. She was not faking. The doctors were sure of that. She was just so hurt that it crushed her emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Here we see dramatically the awful pain of feeling rejected. Now I want to leave Jessica in the hospital for just a moment. We are going to get her out later, but right now the point is clear. The pain of feeling rejected can ...
... by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” Reason requires it. We need mediators because in most every disagreement there is “Your truth,” “My truth,” and “The real truth.” It is very difficult for any of us to be objective when we are emotionally and personally involved. Passion can cloud perspective. The more assertive we are by nature the harder it becomes to admit we are wrong. So many of us hold on to trivial truth long after the point has been made. Mediation is hard work. Mediators ...
642. Do You Love Me? - Sermon Starter
John 21:1-14
Illustration
Brett Blair
... my sheep," the Risen Lord says to him. "Feed my sheep." Then the story ends exactly the way it started months before with Christ saying to Simon at the seashore these words, "Follow me!" Isn't that a great story? Jam-packed with the stuff of life powerful symbols, strong emotions, and dramatic lessons. There is a very real human quality to this story. Let's sort this out with three basic human questions: 1. First, what do we see here physically? 2. Second, what do we feel here ...
643. A Lie
John 13:34-35
Illustration
Philip Gulley
Hate is an emotion we can't help. Hate is a feeling we cannot overcome. If we hate someone, it is because we just can't help ourselves. ... can help it. Hatred is a choice. We choose to hate, just as we choose to love. Oh, I know, there are people out there who believe love isn't a choice, that love is primarily an emotion, a feeling, a stirring in the loins. These are the same people who stay married for six months, then divorce. These are the people who love the idea of love but seem unable to stay in it. ...
... jobs, without meaning in their work - but have found that job and meaning now and are there to support the others. It is not a job finding ministry, though many people get jobs because of the networking that takes place. It is a support ministry a spiritual, emotional support. People find life and meaning, and they sometimes find jobs. The seed for this ministry is planted a few years ago when John Huggins and Roger Watson had been out of work for a long time. Each of them started talking to me and some ...
... — that we are friends of Christ. Scripture affirms it over and over again that God loves us — and that His love reaches out to us, not as we might be if we were better, but that He loves us as we are and where we are. Isaiah uses an emotion-laden image to picture God’s love: Partners in witness – but more. II PARTNERS IN PRAYER Listen again to Jesus in verse 16, “You did not choose Me but I chose you – and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should abide; so ...
... ’t be a genuine friend to another person without some price being exacted. The cost includes time given in attention to others, energy spent for the other’s well-being, sacrifice of our wants and desires for the health and wholeness of the other. Emotional involvement that often tears us to pieces. THERE IS A PRICE FOR RELATIONSHIP. Tagore, the poet of India, tells a memorable story from his life which illustrates this. His servant did not come to work on time one morning. Like so many professional men ...
... ; he’s hard and severe - obstinate. Two things will help to understand this perplexing notion. First, we need to remember that in Hebrew thought, the heart was the source of the intellect or the will, not the emotion. It was the seat of volitional action where decisions were made, the sort of emotional tones that we identify with it today. Then, a second thing we need to remember is that in Hebrew thought, there was no dealing with secondary causes that is, causes standing between an event and God. It ...
... imperishable words, “Lo, I am with you all the days, even unto the end. (Shall we have the faith to answer?) “Yea, though I walk throgh the valley of the Shadow of death, I will fear no evil for thou art with me”? Even if our emotions have not yet realized the experience, yet let our faith affirm the fact with unfaltering emphasis.” (F. B. Meyer, Studies in Exodus p. 303) That God goes before us preveniently - is preparing the way - is going to meet us at every overflowing Jordan - at every swelling ...
... could struggle to be right in the eyes of others and in their own sight. That would take a lot of energy. Or they could decide to be well. The director was convinced that the need to justify yourself to others was one of the major causes of an emotionally debilitating disease. Listen, you want to make yourself sick, pretend you’re right all the time. Now that’s one you can write down, If you want to make yourself sick, pretend that you’re right all the time. Try to fix the blame on others. Don’t ...
... .” “That’s fine,” replied the boss, “but where were you yesterday.” It is rest many of us crave and in some cases that is what we need. But many others of us are more tired than we need to be. The source of our fatigue is mental and emotional. We come home from work and we are exhausted. We hardly have energy to get out of the chair. And yet if someone had something really exciting for us to do something active something enjoyable we would discover energy we never knew we had. Psychological and ...