... spouse would pick up a phone and make an appointment to sit down with that person to iron out their difficulties? Am I a dreamer? I guess so. If you think this is an easy teaching by our Lord, you have never had anyone hurt you. Feelings of betrayal, anger, hurt, bitterness, resentment can sometimes overwhelm. Some of you have been there, haven’t you? After a while, it may become a matter of pride. Gilbert and Sullivan are two of the great names of musical theater. Their operettas have thrilled millions ...
... , and for, them. Please, let me help you see and, at least, partially understand God has not forsaken you. Please allow me to suggest what God may have for you. Whatever it is, he always seeks your betterment. A suggestion: refrain from saying, "I know exactly how you feel and here is God's will for you!" Our need to help and please people we love may tend to drive us in that direction. Summary And Conclusion To realize and fully accept our gift is a major turning point in every life that trusts in Christ's ...
... has also been an indulgence of authority. Some parents, says Franks, are always asking their children if it's "okay," asking their permission. A ten-year-old boy told the author, "Trust me, I know some kids who are guilty of parent abuse." He continues, "They feel like they own their parents and that they could just take all their parents' money out of the their bank account and run away if they wanted." One family therapist commented, "Sometimes I think I'm too old-fashioned to practice in today's world ...
... charts. The song was addressed within the lyrics to the "frustrated mother" and "unappreciated wife" from the perspective of a woman who has been everywhere and "seen a thousand things a woman ain't s'posed to see." Yet for all her adventures and exciting travel she feels unfulfilled, even a bit envious of those with a man to fight with, and sleep with every night. She grieves for the children she will not bear and reflects, "I've been to Paradise, but I've never been to me." The song was released amidst ...
... leg up?” It messes with the notion that good is rewarded and evil is punished. The kingdom of God messes up ALL our expectations! Good thing. For here’s the truth: ALL of us are those “last hour hires.” The fallacy practiced by all artists who feel they need to intentionally introduce a “flaw” into their work in order to honor God is this: NOTHING we can do, or say, or think, or dream, can come even remotely close to the perfection that is God and the perfection that God might well require of ...
4106. Life Just Isn’t Fair
Matthew 20:1-16
Illustration
William J. Carl, III
... archetype for familial systems down through the centuries. Well, I didn't exactly put it that way when I was 15, but that's how I felt. It's the way older employees feel when young hot shots come into the workplace and the older ones get shoved out into unemployment lines. It's the way veteran athletes feel when rookies get drafted with multi-million dollar contracts while the veterans have been slugging it out at smaller salaries all these years. Some coaches even treat these rookies differently from the ...
4107. The Pain of Rejection
Matthew 21:33-46
Illustration
King Duncan
... identity, and acceptance by our peers was so important. Whether it was being the last one chosen for the ball team or standing on the sideline watching another being crowned homecoming queen, most of us know how it feels to be on the outside looking in. There were those terrible dating years and those tangled feelings of hope and hurt. A lady wrote to Reader's Digest to tell about a friend of hers whose dorm sisters had a system for dealing with the problem of what to do when the wrong fellow calls asking ...
... arms. She turned a beaming face toward heaven, then looked down at the child. Her smile turned to a frown. She looked back toward heaven with a scowl and said, "Well, he had a hat." Many of us have had our dreams disembodied, our worlds washed away, and we feel like we've never gotten back the baby, much less the hat. So despair seems an easy and logical choice to make. The first son in Jesus' parable could have been paralyzed by despair. He soon saw he had made a grave error in talking back to his father ...
... . In one of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books, Dr. James C. Brown tells the story of a little girl named Mary who faced her own perfect storm. As they rolled 5‑year‑old Mary in for an MRI, Dr. Brown tried to imagine what she must be feeling. Little Mary had suffered a stroke. The left half of her body was now paralyzed. Earlier, she’d been hospitalized for a brain tumor. Then, she’d lost her father, her mother and her home. The staff all wondered how Mary would react to the test. But, she went ...
... Like Mary and the patriarchs and prophets of the past, we must be open to the presence of the Lord and God's call. We cannot fulfill our basic vocation to holiness without possessing a radical openness to God. We must be open to God when we feel inadequate. Created in the image and likeness of God we are, nonetheless, broken, incomplete sinners. As John Calvin said in varied ways, we are unworthy to stand before God. Yet, since this is the common condition for all, none of us is truly adequate and thus God ...
... us. Such clear acts demonstrating the quality and the extent of God’s love for us. This is the excitement we need to feel, so much that we can hardly sit still, when we read or hear that familiar phrase, “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son ... , so that everyone who believes in him may not perish but may have eternal life.” We need to feel this excitement about what God has done for us, given us Jesus Christ whom God then exalted, because it is all too easy to ...
... we go to the gym once, we don't see much in the way of results. We may be more tired or a little sore but we don't feel better and we still weigh as much. We don't gain the benefit of exercise in one visit and we don't usually notice the change at the ... in the presence and power of God that we begin to grow and develop as Jesus' disciples. We don't get up from prayer and suddenly feel like we can defeat all the powers of evil that are before us. It is a slow and gradual process by which we begin to resemble ...
4113. April 15, Not a Good Day
Matthew 22:15-22
Illustration
King Duncan
... every department of the government, but you really have to hand it to the IRS." Another cynic has said, "Death and taxes may always be with us, but at least death doesn't get any worse." Arthur Godfrey once said, "I feel honored to pay taxes in America. The thing is, I could probably feel just as honored for about half the price." One last observer noted that the Eiffel tower is the Empire State building after taxes. God and the IRS. "Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's and unto God the things ...
... can repent of anger and turn to us in love? Can we follow love's energy, even though it is unpredictable and yes, changeable? Perhaps if we can open our hearts to a God of change, maybe then we can welcome change in others? Maybe then we won't feel the need to hold our politicians and our friends, our neighbors and our families up to some false standard of rigid consistency. Instead, let's hold one another accountable in love. The question to ask doesn't really have to do with consistency; it has to do with ...
... Think how much it meant for you to have received the Spirit already, and then multiply it times two. For my own part, it is hard to imagine what that would look like. Some, I think, might feel indulgent or even selfish. Others might say, "Open the gates; I can use all I can get!" What would you say? How would you feel? What would happen with this flood of abundance that would come your way in a double measure of that spirit? Do you know what Elisha did? He picked up the mantle of Elijah. He stepped into his ...
... her painstaking way from Moab back with Naomi to her hometown of Bethlehem. Ruth sacrifices for another who is in need of her love, without regard for the loss of her own well-being. Ruth's persistent care and concern enable Naomi to lay aside her bitter feelings and to take charge of her life again after the devastating loss of her husband and sons. An older widow like Naomi, in a foreign country, had no future at all. By returning to her own people, she could at least hope for some charity. But without ...
... when confronted with the inevitable. Let's face it, death is a scary topic, even to the citizens of the twenty-first century. Almost all adults have experienced the death of a loved one. Children, too, have lost beloved relationships. Even the strongest of us can feel helpless and frightened in the face of death. Unexpected death can be the worst, when we have not had any time to prepare ourselves or to say "good-bye." In the book, Andrew, You Died Too Soon, Corrine Chilstrom shares with us the death by ...
4118. Love for God Is a Commitment
Matthew 22:34-40
Illustration
King Duncan
... key, or for her to get the paper in the machine, but all the time she is praying for those whose books she is working on." That's loving God. People make the same mistake with loving God that they make with loving a spouse. They confuse love with a feeling. Feelings are important, of course, but love for God is, first of all, a commitment.
... Would all of us be real “saints” if all we had to do was run helpful errands? Isn’t there some deeper commitment, some greater impulse required of a “saint?” We all know there are true saints in our midst this morning. Can’t you feel their presence? We have but to recognize and celebrate them. And this is our problem. The problem with real “saints” is that they are slippery. Jesus identified the revealing qualities of a true “saint” in today’s text. They don’t proudly peacock their ...
... memories that surge out of the past–the sweet, tender, poignant fragrances of love. Nothing that has been said, nothing that could be said, or that ever will be said, would be eloquent enough, expressive enough, or adequate to make articulate that peculiar emotion we feel to our mothers. So I shall make my tribute a plea for Keepers of the Springs, who will be faithful to their tasks. There never has been a time when there was a greater need for Keepers of the Springs, or when there were more polluted ...
4121. Ready All the Time
Mark 1:1-8
Illustration
Billy D. Strayhorn
... the help God has given that day. Mr. Rank is ready for Christmas. Mr. Rank is ready for anything. Unfortunately, there are too many people who think that Christmas is to be celebrated by working up some mushy, sentimental feelings about God and the Christ child one day out of the year and then putting those feelings back on the shelf or back in the trunks and baggage for another 365 days. Those folks aren't really ready for Christmas. They're not ready for the birth of Christ in their lives. And that's what ...
... to America were those arranged by a priest whose heart went out to the overworked Indian slaves in the Spanish mines. Good intentions can often produce bad results. When people tell the preacher "Nice Sermon!" as they leave the church, we usually get a positive feeling. But when someone walks up to you, looks you in the eye, and says "Nice effort" - you get the point. "Nice efforts" and "well meanings" and "good intentions" are not enough. Being a Christian and being sincere are not one and the same thing ...
... of well known quotations together." First, we think of prayer as a technique when it is really a grace. We want to put our best foot forward when we come into God's presence - we don't want to be petty, silly, selfish and bad. So we wait until we feel stronger, more good, more unselfish. Or when we pray we put on our best selves and try to be something we're really not. Prayer is a time for you to be you - for you to be yourself. Second, it is a mistake to think of prayer in the terms ...
... deadly contest. Despite this renewed respect for the soldier and the need to "Support Our Troops," it is still difficult to feel entirely comfortable with militaristic images of the Christian. As St. Augustine once wrote: "You run well but off the track." ... of spirit. If we translate Paul's image into that of an athlete, we can allow for great physical combat and yet still feel great respect if not awe for the perpetrators of these actions. Such a transference is not completely based on a capricious notion of ...
... rejoicing in the Lord and proclaiming the glass half-full and the bucket fillable takes more than a sappy sense of well-being - it takes gutsy joy. Gutsy joy enables us to see the steady stream of God's love and fidelity flowing into our lives when we feel as though we are in the midst of a spiritual drought. Gutsy joy keeps us striving after obedience even when we realize we will always fall short of God's intentions for us. One of the greatest examples of gutsy joy is Robert Louis Stevenson, someone who ...