... , but a psychological disaster as well. I seriously question its reality as an adequate definition of love. I am not in a position to quarrel with Mr. Segal, the author, who is a Harvard graduate, a professor at Yale, and the author of a best seller. But I feel that, as a definition of human and spiritual relationships, it falls far short in terms of a Christian understanding of life. Two of the most difficult and humbling words in any language are: "I’m sorry." By the same token, they are two of the most ...
... the good of that? (James 2:14-16, Phillips) ... A man is justified before God by what he does as well as by what he believes." (2:24) In other words, James is saying that perfect oneness is what one does as well as what one feels and believes. The Christian community has before it a tremendous challenge in identifying with suffering humanity. Not only by giving our left-overs or our surpluses, but through true sacrifice can we show that we honestly care. As we make costly contributions, over and above the ...
... of Jesus and who Jesus was. This is what made John special. The Bible teaches us that when God calls us to a special work, he gives us a special responsibility. John was one of those people and God loved him and gave him great strength. One of you may feel God call you someday for a special work. When he does call you, you will know it because he will give you special strength and you will ...
... as powerful pain relievers. The results are often fantastic. Ever since physicians adopted them, placebos have helped patients feel better. Regardless of usage, placebos achieve an effect in about thirty-five percent of the cases. The word " ... effect of a placebo lies in the fact that while a patient is taking one he puts out of his mind the unpleasantness of his feelings. His mind blocks out the imagined and lingering ailments and gains a fresh start. By getting people to quit focusing on their ills and ...
... of the Spirit which will enrich our lives and our ministry to serve God and witness for him. WHEN SHOULD YOU SPEAK IN TONGUES? If you are given the gift of speaking in tongues, when should you do it? Are you to exercise the gift anytime you please, whenever you feel like it? If someone comes to you and says, "Speak, speak in tongues, I want to hear you!" - Can you do it? Of course you can’t - at least not authentically. For, remember the gift is not yours; it is a gift which the Spirit gives, as Paul says ...
... way sometimes," or "It’s just not natural to be loving all the time," and once again we find our love is short of breath! We "tried" - we honestly "tried," but we can’t be loving all the time. We are sick and tired of trying, we are sick of feeling guilty about it, we are ready to wash our hands of whole "loving" mess! And you are right. This is as good a time as any to realize that you can never make yourself love. Those people who easily and blithely say they "love everybody" are suspect in my book ...
... who is really great and loved by people: it is the pastor who works among his people, the doctor who will help the sick any time, the employer who will take an interest in his employees, the person you can go to for help and never make you feel a nuisance. Christianity isn’t in shouting to the world "what a great Christian I am," or judging others or condemning them in a self-righteous attitude; but it is in helping our fellow humans. That’s what greatness really is. William Barclay writes in his Daily ...
... outward shell of their own skins, lives that are bound up completely with their own physical welfare and comfort and health. Certainly, we all know lives of this description, the person who goes around with one burning concern in life: "How do I feel? How do I feel? Is my motor running smoothly? Is my plumbing operating efficiently? That little pain that I felt, is it better or is it worse?" Conversation at social gatherings, for many of us, continues to be an organ recital, the deliciously gory details of ...
... own asceticism prevent him from acknowledging the sexual basis of marriage. Continence is not the norm. Sexual relations are to be interrupted only for periods of prayer and then resumed (1 Corinthians 7:5). Not only does he understand human nature but he also feels a deep empathy for the whole human race, "groaning inwardly" (Romans 8:23) and "sighing with anxiety" (2 Corinthians 5:4) over its distress. Yet the dominant note in his own experience and in his message to others is "Rejoice in the Lord always ...
... But to let one’s left hand know what the right hand is doing is to be in danger of forgetting this. With one’s goodness looming before one’s eyes, one soon comes to feel though perhaps without saying as much - that one deserves the recognition and admiration of people. Then it is only a short step from there to the feeling that God is in one’s debt, and that, as the Pharisee in Jesus’ parable implied, God ought to consider himself fortunate in having such a fine person as this on his side. Walter ...
... eye"? Why should something that is in another person’s eye cause me to be unable to see? Only in extraordinary cases would this be because of one’s capacity for feeling with and for another. Empathy is not what is involved here. One is blinded by a speck in another person’s eye, not because of intense sympathetic feeling, but because of unsympathetic attention to that speck. Total blindness is not indicated here. One sees well enough the speck in the other person’s eye. But because of cultivated ...
... but what I have received), it is in forgiving injuries: And on this very side am I assaulted, more frequently than on any other." Then he added, as a prayer: "Yet leave me not here one hour to myself, or I shall betray myself and thee!"4 Perhaps our feeling is closer to that of Aunt Chloe in Uncle Tom’s Cabin as she talks with her husband about the way so many slaves are treated by their masters. Many masters, she says, think nothing of separating a child from his parents and a husband from his wife. The ...
... to be in control long enough to give color and distinction to the total personality. On the other hand, you may have but a few items of actual information about a person and only a casual acquaintance, or you may never even have met him personally, and yet you feel quite sure you know him - because you are sure of his style. The fact is, a person is never really a person in the deepest sense until he has achieved such a degree of integration as to reveal a distinctive style all his own. The only way we ever ...
... and he saw his more pious brother acceding to the place of spiritual priority, it made him angry and he began to impute to Abel his own attitudes. We do that, don’t we? If I do wrong, I have a very real tendency to impute to every person my feeling, and say to myself, "If it were only known, he probably is doing wrong, too." My father used to say, "Hen, if you wIll keep yourself fundamentally decent you will begin to believe that there is someone else who is decent, and if there are two, there might be ...
... of it. I do thank you, Lord. Well, I might as well get up and stretch. [He rises and steps out of the casket.] MARTHA: It’s true! He’s alive! LAZARUS: Mary! Martha! MARY: It’s a miracle. He’s alive! MARTHA: How do you feel, Lazarus? LAZARUS: Wonderful! MARY: Wonderful? LAZARUS: Fresh as a daisy. MARTHA: You look so rested. LAZARUS: Why not? I’ve had a good long sleep. Only, I’ve never slept in my Sunday suit before. SECOND CLERGYMAN: Come, now, this will never do. LAZARUS: Why, hello, Reverend ...
... song advised, "Kiss her now." Kiss her right now - while she’s yours; while you’ve got the chance, grab the opportunity. On a young man’s powerful sports car I saw a bumper sticker bearing this message: "If it feels good, do it." This is saying there is only one consideration - how it feels, now. No matter what doing it does, do it. Whatever shackles it puts upon the future, go ahead - today is all that matters. And even it matters only because it offers a chance to grab something from it. Back in ...
... unreflective about it. A typical solution? An official greeter or a greeting committee, the appointed persons-for-the-day. They meet you at the door as you enter the Church. They give you a cursory greeting, a bulletin, a smile and a seat, and this will make you feel wanted. In a very real sense, the bearded and sandaled hippie is a more prophetic instrument of God than many in the Church. He is saying, if we can hear what he is saying: "I’m human. Only so far will you organize and conform my life. You ...
... . Although ours is not geographical or, generally, physical, it is spiritual and it is relational. The loneliness of a great number of humans in 1977 is a horror to them. Witness: most of us are never alone without a radio or television going. We tend to feel that, if we have something around us, we can forget that inner exile that separates us from sensing that life is meaningful and that we are meaningful. Because there is a similarity in this theme with other lessons of this season, it occurs to me that ...
... sandwiches, four or five candy bars and some cake. That wouldn’t last long among six men. But the chances were the water would get us before we got very hungry. And then I remembered the story of Daniel. The day before, Sunday, after church, I’d had the strongest feeling that God was telling me to read the Bible, just to let it fall open at random. So I’d done it, and where should it open but to the story of how God brought Daniel out of the lion’s den. "Listen, fellows," I said. "Listen to what God ...
... annual salary of $5500. We know that God has had a hand in our finances all through the years. Just as surely as a financial need arises that we have no way to cover, God reveals a way. He has done it so many times that we don't even feel surprised anymore. Several years ago an 82-year-old Methodist layman named Bob wrote me a letter about tithing. He said he had tithed for over sixty years, ever since he became a Christian. He recalled Depression days when he and his wife had very little. But they always ...
... the rest of the country. 56 percent of the students, a clear majority, stated that right and wrong is a matter of personal opinion. Only 38 percent said that right and wrong are absolutes. Many Americans are guided by the philosophy of that bumper sticker which says, "If it feels good, do it." Someone who saw that bumper sticker on a car told me that he was tempted to ram that car, for one simple reason. He wanted to hear the driver ask, "Why in the world did you ram my car?" Then he could reply, "Well, it ...
... . I reset the timer for exactly three minutes. As soon as I punched the start key, I closed my eyes and the wind found me. I could feel the touch on my face, my arms, my back. My mind knew the mantra on which to focus--I am pure capacity for God. As I exhaled, ... God has inclined you to be amazingly kind and charitable and supportive. God has augmented my limited gifts and has made me feel comfortable in this awesome responsibility. In my own strength, I never was and never will be equal to the task. But God ...
... visited Los Angeles a few years ago, a physician named Gerald Jampolski heard her speak. Attracted by the spiritual power that emanated from her, he asked her, "Would it be alright if I accompanied you on your coming tour to Mexico? Whenever I am around you, I feel the presence of God." She replied, "Dr. Jampolski, I do not object to your joining me, but you said you wanted to experience inner peace. Find out how much it costs to fly to Mexico and back. Give that money to feed and clothe someone in need ...
... turn away." Let the Messiah feed you during this holy season. Invite him into your life as Savior and Lord. Let his spiritual food be your best gift in the worst of times. NOTICE SECONDLY THAT MICAH PROMISES THAT THE MESSIAH'S GREATNESS WILL BE OUR SECURITY. Do you feel insecure as we enter this Advent season? You do if your marriage is less than solid. You do if your job is at risk. You might if you have medical problems. If you have lost a loved-one in the last year, insecurity could be part of your grief ...
... were leaders in our church. Their little daughter was about four years old. Two days earlier he had been on the golf course, feeling fine. But now he was in the hospital ICU fighting for his life. A mysterious infection was sweeping through his body. He seemed ... life?" He thought for a moment and replied, "My big concern is this: did I win? Is this enough? I have lived over 70 years and I feel as if I've spent my life playing a game in which I am not sure of the rules or the goal. And I wonder whether I ...