... to the person who has caused it. That may cause a confrontation. Well and good. The Scriptures tell me I must "grow up into Christ." Part of that maturing process means that I must learn to listen to you and accept what you may tell me if you have a grievance traceable to me - or something I committed or permitted which was hurtful. Of course, if you tell me what the difficulty is, I may explain myself in ways to show you that I had a motive you had not appreciated. Still, if harm was done, I need to listen ...
Psalm 32:1-11, Joshua 5:1-12, 2 Corinthians 5:11--6:2, Luke 15:1-7
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William E. Keeney
... in many ways. Some define it in egalitarian terms. The older brother under Jewish law would receive double the inheritance of the younger brother. Is the accident of birth a reason for such a distribution of goods? Did the younger son have a just grievance against the system? Another definition of justice is that persons get what they deserve. The older brother felt that the younger brother got all the breaks and did not deserve them. Even after the younger brother wasted away the father's goods, he got ...
Matthew 18:21-35, Romans 14:1--15:13, Exodus 13:17--14:31, Psalm 114:1-8
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William E. Keeney
... long into the future. How do we deal with the need for institutions, both sacred and secular, to be forgiven, especially if the parties to the cause of the grievance are long gone and present members have no sense of personal guilt? 7. Conditions for Forgiveness · Does forgiveness require certain conditions for it to be fulfilled? Forgiveness has two sides: the person needing forgiveness and the person offering forgiveness. Can we really forgive another unless the other person repents of ...
... reason why the Bible is so concerned about cultivating the ability to wait. The activists of the 60s crowded college campuses across the country. They were occupied with dreams of changing the world, creating a new society, righting the wrongs of the disenfranchised and redressing the grievances of the poor. But the world has gone about its entrenched ways for a long time and society proved to be a stubborn resistor to change. Neither yielded readily to their insistance. The wrongs were not redressed, the ...
... the Twelve-step programs: 1) Write down in black and white the reasons why we are angry with (someone)...Writing clarifies emotions which have been confused and buried in us, sometimes for years. Also by setting down our grievances in black and white, we place a boundary around them. Our grievances are only so big and no bigger. The hurt had a beginning and it can have an end. 2) Consider "giving away" (telling) what we have written to some trusted person. Consider symbolically releasing the hurt, such as ...
... it a few days, and released it to the owner. She never forgot the incident. Decades later she continued tormenting the former newsboy with phone calls. Our newspapers carry stories all the time of people who have a grievance against someone else and they tried to settle that grievance through retaliation. Spiritually, retaliation is deadly. There was a television movie that pointed out how deadly it is. It was about a young man who had a love-hate relationship with his father. He was trying desperately to ...
... violent deed that night in the Garden, but whoever it was, it gave occasion for some of Jesus’ most familiar words. “Put your sword back into its place; for all who take the sword will perish by the sword.” (Matthew 26:52) Whatever their grievances, terrorism comes about as close to the unpardonable sin as anything I can imagine. Killing in wartime is bad enough, but killing innocent people to make a political point seems to me to be unconscionable! “All who take the sword will perish by the sword ...
... convenient time when your fellow is not hungry or stressed out and pushed for time. Go humbly, and say, "I could be wrong. I'm willing to listen. What happened between us the other day hurts me, and I'd like to talk it over." Then come out with your grievance. The Bible says that if your brother listens to you, then you've gained your brother. "Oh, I am so sorry. I did not realize. Do forgive me. I'd never want to hurt you!" Other times the tack might be similar, but tapered to the need. "I just want ...
... I’m just sitting here waiting on more spit.” I know some grown-ups who get angry and react the same way. You can look at them and tell that they are just sitting around waiting on more spit. Indeed, all of us have a tendency to harbor grievances against other people. If there is a single person here today who is not angry or resentful toward anybody, please autograph your bulletin and give it to me after the service. I want to show it to my Baptist minister friends to prove that the first perfect person ...
... . They grow old and feeble. Their friends and contemporaries die off. At the age of eighty, their property is taken from them and given to their children, who would otherwise never inherit from them. Their bodies contract various ailments, they accumulate grudges and grievances, they grow weary of the struggle of life, and they can never look forward to being released from the pain of living. (2) Thus there may be many things in life we dread more than physical death. For many of us death is something ...
... rope, the bell keeps on swinging. First ding, then dong. Slower and slower until there’s a final dong and it stops. I believe the same thing is true of forgiveness. When we forgive, we take our hand off the rope. But if we’ve been tugging at our grievances for a long time, we mustn’t be surprised if the old angry thoughts keep coming for a while. They’re just the ding-dongs of the old bell slowing down.” This was just the advice Corrie needed. She writes, “And so it proved to be. There were a ...
... is not self-praise, but rather a boast in the Lord (cf. 1 Cor. 1:31; 2 Cor. 10:17). 1:13a Having affirmed his sincerity in verse 12, Paul proceeds in verse 13a to substantiate (For, gar) what he has said by addressing the specific grievance against his letter-writing. Evidently, the Corinthians charge Paul with having a hidden agenda in his letters: He writes one thing and does another. The problem is not that Paul’s letters are sometimes inadvertently difficult to understand or ambiguous (cf. 1 Cor. 5:9 ...
... ; it is to rule (lit., brabyein means “to arbitrate,” “to control”), to guide in the decisions that he or she makes. Those at peace with themselves will be at peace with others; it enables individuals to be united into a single body. The “grievances” (3:13) that members have against each other are settled when Christ’s peace rules in their midst. In the context of the indicative and the imperative, the meaning of Paul’s admonition could be stated this way: By virtue of being reconciled to ...
... ." Even within the family of the church we need to learn to "fight fair" - to be constructively honest about our differences and the things that get under our skin. Sometimes that may mean knowing when it won't do any good to bring a particular grievance out into the open, but more often than not I think it will mean that we can facilitate what is called "conflict utilization" - not the "management" of conflict, but the kind of open-ended give and take that leads to growth. (To speak of managing conflict ...
... an unforgiving heart. Some of us, every time we pray, we ask God to forgive us of our sins. That’s a countless number of requests for forgiveness over a lifetime. And yet we may carry in our hearts grievances toward others that we should have let go of long ago. We let go of these grievances, the pain and resentment of betrayal, first of all, by recognizing that we ourselves have been forgiven through the grace of Jesus Christ. Dwight L. Moody once put that grace in a beautiful way. He wrote: “I can ...
Jeremiah 30:1--31:40, 2 Timothy 3:10--4:8, Luke 18:1-8, Psalm 119:1-176
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William E. Keeney
... . We do not know if he or she was a person of influence or had already bribed the judge. The opponent is never described or appears to defend the actions against the widow. We are to assume that the widow had a just cause. The righteousness of her grievance has no impact on the judge. He is self-centered and calloused. The logic of her case in no way moves him. He may have considered the claim of the widow too trivial to require his attention. In treating the parable, a person may want to elaborate the ...
In our text Job makes his lament to God loud and clear, "Today also my complaint is bitter." The word bitter seems to carry the feeling of defiance in the wake of grievance and complaint. Job earlier has spoken of the bitterness of his soul:Therefore I will not restrain my mouth;I will speak in the anguish of my spirit;I will complain in the bitterness of my soul. (7:11)I loathe my life; I will give free utterance to my ...
... the actions of a tyrannical governor. It is said that crowds will gather outside the Shah's palace and there set up a continual howling. They refuse to be silent, or to leave when threatened by guards, until they have had the opportunity to air their grievances. They are known even to surround the Shah's car when he is out driving. Often it works, for the Shah will grant their request, not from his love of justice, but because he wishes to be freed of their annoyance. Truly Wanting Christ's Blessings ...
... it is not there, to let it seethe underneath until it comes out as passive aggressiveness. The sin is to let anger be directed against people and not against issues and conditions. The sin is to nurse anger in our relationships, feeding it more and more grievances without facing the situation honestly and squarely. Nursed anger becomes hate. And then love is entirely defeated in us because hate is the zero of love. There are three things that I sense are important for us in facing our anger. First, it is ...
... your throne. O Lord, help us overcome the barriers that separate us from one another and from you. Teach us how to forget past achievements, lest our boasting erect a wall that cannot be climbed. May we become able through your strength, to let past defeats and grievances remain in the past. Above all, help us to change that self-centered portion of ourselves so that it may be a channel to receive all people and not an excuse to reject them. Words can never express, O God, what it means to us that you ...
... of this passage should serve as a reminder that, at least within the Christian fellowship, the inevitable conflicts that arise should be dealt with circumspectly. Rather than creating a cause celebre from the outset, a "wronged" party should attempt to resolve a grievance one-on-one with the perpetrator, and only then if not satisfied, and only gradually, attempt to seek resolution in a wider circle of consultation. Liturgical Color Green Suggested Hymns Praise The Almighty O Son Of God, In Galilee Take My ...
... God's forgiveness of her sins. You can see the need for forgiveness in homes and families, where people of the same flesh and blood can hardly stand to be with one another. Every offhand remark, every look of the eye, every tone of voice dredges up grievances which have been accumulating for many years. These families imprison each other in a living hell and will never escape unless, as a family, they can find a way to forgive and forget. You can see it in a church, when disputes arise and factions form ...
... sabotage, making prisoners of the undeserving. It is not a crisis of oil, guns, bread or butter. It is not the public theater of disgrace, shame, and humiliation brought about by political insurrectionists and dissidents desiring to vault center stage to air their grievances. No, the hostage crisis I'm referring to today is none of these things. The hostage crisis today is where the people of God are taken prisoner by evil and spiritual decadence, where souls have sold out to Satan; where the spiritually ...
... people hated me, fear my family would scorn me, fear of what would become of me. In time, I feared I was losing my mind, and I feared I was so evil that God must hate me. I was torn by hatred, nursed thoughts of vengeance for every little grievance -and - worst of all -I knew that was wrong, and I hated myself for it. What transformed me? The change began when my husband wanted to be in Jerusalem for the Feast of Tabernacles. I went grudgingly, complaining of every inconvenience on the way. At the Temple a ...
... weakness and failure, come to us as a Friend of sinners. If we feel no need of prayer, reveal your fingerprints upon every gift and the marks of Christ's sufferings upon the world's sorrows and broken hopes. When we seek your face and remember grievances which keep a brother or sister from your altar and fellowship, show us the way of reconciliation. When anxieties press in to suffocate the breath of the Spirit, give us faith to breathe deeply the winds of heaven's promises. When burdens oppress us, be for ...